By: Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala

REASONS WHY MEN ALWAYS ASK YOU FOR SEX – I want to change some ladies mindset today. You see, men are not dogs. Not all of them are mad. Not all the men on the street wants to get into your pants. I’m going to be real and down to earth with this write up. 

The way some ladies complain men are always asking them for sex really baffles me. Why sex, why not marriage proposal? Why do men always want to sleep with you? Why is it that every single guy who asks you out is always hitting you for sex? Why won’t they marry you unless they have a taste of the forbidden fruit? This is a big problem, It is not something to be proud of, if all that men see about you is your body and nothing more. It then cause for alarm!!!!!


A female’s body means nothing to her. You are used to seeing your breasts and every soft body part all your life. It doesn’t mean a thing to you but to guys it means the universe! Men are moved by sight.

Wearing armless (exposing your shaved armpit and upper arm) can turn a man on, talkless of the low neckline exposing the cleavage of your breasts, you wear trousers, tights skirt, (panty hose) which shows the shape of your buttock, mini and micro mini skirts exposing your thigh…all can make a man go wild. Better face reality now and mind the way you dress. Don’t forget that it is only God that sees your heart but men sees the body oh.


Some ladies don’t know how to sit. Especially the skirt wearing sisters. You sit in front of a guy and open your laps and be snapping us anyhow so what do you want him to see? A trance or maybe revelation?????  Always close your thigh when you are sitting whether in front of a guy or not.

Not sitting very well can become a habit and follow you around. And you wonder why all the brothers in the church wants to sleep with you.


Ladies who touch, hug and wrap themselves around guys are sexual magnets to sexually immature guys. Why are you always hugging and pecking, for what? Can’t you talk without touching, holding and hugging someone? Some even sit on their “friend’s” lap and say it doesn’t matter. He is just a brother in Christ. He would soon be a lover in bed. Learn to control your emotions around the opposite sex. If you must hug, go look for your fellow lady to hug and peck and you still need to be careful. Lesbians are all over the place.


Some people just throw around the word “dear” as if it is a second language, Why would you give all the guys in your life pet names? You say, “thanks dear,” “okay sweetie”, “see you dearie”, “bye love”, yes sugar, Hello honeypie, etc., you are looking for serious trouble. Words like this turns a man on. Even if you must call, set a limit.


This shouldn’t be a problem at all but experience has taught me that men are attracted and eventually turned on by women who praise them. You can compliment men if you want to but be discreet and casual about it. Don’t over do anything. Telling a guy, “whao! what a nice moustache you’ve got!” or that “muscle on your arm can make any lady go crazy for you” is indirectly telling him you like his body and wouldn’t mind if he sleeps with you.


Here, you deliberately wear provocative dresses with the intention to turn him on. You want to see whether you are sexually admirable to him and want to see how far he can respond to your seduction. You don’t need that test at all. Men are turned on by women whether you seduce him or not. A woman’s body is built to turn a man on. I really get worried when I see these pictures. You can’t have my comments when you post such. Just showing your dirty buttock and breast anyhow on the social media. What a foolishness.


When I see the way some ladies pose on Facebook, I wonder what they are really looking for. Do you want him to kiss you? Why turn your buttock to the camera? Do you want him to see how big it is? Why focus on your chest? Do you want him to know you have form breasts? Or maybe you’ve got nipples like needle?? What is the purpose of the purpose of the pictures you are posting?

You post exposing your body and still have the guts to write oluwa is involve. Sorry you are only making yourself a harlot and that’s what you are. Responsible women don’t do that trash.


Lobatan! Sex has finished its mission. Sex loves dark and lonely places. Wait, why are you always avoiding the public? You want to talk? Can’t you still be around people and stay out of ear shot? What are you talking about that we must not hear? Send a text message or write a letter. You don’t need to hide in darkness to express your heart…


Why are you in a hurry to sleep under the same roof with a man? Why are you in a hurry? What is your problem? Some ladies can’t wait for a man to propose. They pack their bags and move to his house immediately. For what? And when that one gets tired of the sex, he sends them packing and we are here listening to all their tales of woe! Some don’t even expect their man to ask for sex. Aaah? Show me a monkey who doesn’t jump at every sight of banana.


Some ladies think because they are exceptionally beautiful, men will always ask for sex so it’s not really their fault that they sleep around. That is a big lie from the pit of hell!

You need to work on your mind. Thinking all men will die for you because you have a hot body is crap. Not all men lose their senses when they see a woman with seductive body. All irresponsible, immature, abusers and users do get attracted to her anyway. Mature, godly men don’t get their brain twisted on sporting that type of woman.

Watch what you wear, how you sit, where you go and the way you behave around men.

A virtuous woman dresses well to cover her body and comports herself maturely around men. You will be addressed the way you dress. If they are always asking you for sex….,Check what is wrong and fix it….


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Types of cultism in Nigerian Universities – Why are cults so popular among the youths nowadays? What are the main types of cultism in Nigeria and what symbols do they have? Let’s look through the essence of each of them!
What is cultism?

It is possible that lot of people don’t even know that there is a list of cults in Nigeria, which usually thrive at universities and even outside of campus. The main reasons of why some people become members of such movements are the lust for the power, riches, and prestigious status in the society.
Cultists according to the Oxford Dictionary, cultism can be described as a religious or social group whose beliefs are secret, individualistic, and esoteric. Actually, cultism involves carrying out some ritualistic practices. Usually, cultists share some common objectives and ideas. So, they are unknown to the society and also, some cult leaders’ true intentions are unknown even to the members of the particular cult. So, let’s summarize the main characteristics of cultism:
1) it is a spiritual or religious practice;
2) it is a secret practice;
3) it is practiced by a group of individuals;
4) its policies are unknown to the general public;
5) it has an impact on the lives of the individuals;
6) it’s people have a common value.
Cultism in Nigeria:

The first cultism movement in Nigeria was called “Pyrates”. It was founded in 1952 by Nobel Prize winning author Wole Soyinka and his friends. Later they were called “Sea Dogs”. After some time, another kind of community was created. These are what we know today as “secret cults”.
Types of cultism in Nigeria and their symbols.

So, let’s look through the main types of cultism in Nigeria and their symbols. Some Nigerian confraternities do not hide their symbols, while others keep them in secret and only members of that cult know what they are.
(1) Pyrate Confraternity “The National Associations of Sea Dogs”: Pyrate Confraternity
As we have already mentioned, it is controversially the first “secret cult” in the Nigerian University System. Its two main symbols are a skull, two cross-bones and an anchor. The cult’s purposes are: “against expiring convention, tribalism, for humanistic ideas and partnership and knighthood.”But their hay days soon ended when the Buccaneers branched out from them.

(2) Buccaneers Confraternity “The National Associations of Sea Lords”: Buccaneers was
established by the Bolaji Carew, the Buccaneers came to be very mighty and become the major rival to their mother “Pyrate Confraternity” (because they were splintered from them). In 1972, Bolaji Crew and some others were expelled from the Pyrates. A major impetus for the creation of the new confraternities was the fact that members of the new groups simply did not meet the high academic and intellectual standards set by the Seadogs, and thus considered the original organization to be elitist. Carew was the founder of the Buccaneers Confraternity or as it also called the National Associations of Sea Lords. Now you may understand why their symbols and ceremonies are so alike to the Seadogs’.

(3) Black Axe: (Black Axe)
The next confraternity in Nigeria we are going to discuss today is Black Axe. Actually, this cultism community was created by neo-black students. Their major goal was the growth of a strong body to confront those black students who suppress them. The symbol of this movement is the axe. Here are some rules of this group:
– not to betray;
– not to forgive;
– not to condemn, otherwise, you have to pay for it.

(4) Aro-Mates: The next type of cultism is called the “Aro-Mates”. It was established by three students that were once a part of the Pyrate’s Community. This cult is also called the Vikings cult. Their motto and rules are the following: not to retreat even before the death and “blood in the sea”, and to sing piracy songs.
Their symbol also contains an axe, to be more precise, two crossed axes and a boat.
Aro-Mates and their symbols.

(5) Supreme Eiye Confraternity or Air Lords: The next one is called “Air Lords”, or “Supreme Eiye Confraternity”. It was founded by students who aspired for self-development and were dismissive to other types of cultism. Their main opinion became: “there are no enemies, and there are no friends, just a confraternity, and discipline”. The symbol of this movement is the skull and crossbones.

6) Dedy Na debt: This particular cult called “Dedy Na debt”, involves the worship of the demon in an image of a mad person. They believe that their deal puts them above all the other types of cultism. All the members faithfully perform an oath.

(7) Ciao-Sons or mafia based cultism: As for the Ciao-Sons ideology, its roots originated from the virtue of Italian and American mafia. Affiliated to its activity, the members invented the following rules: parties, secrets, and revenge against oppression.

(8) Women’s communities or female cultism: communities, such as “Viqueens”, “Black Bra”, “the Damselalso”, and “Daughters of Jezebel” were also founded by students. By the way, their ideology is grounded on already existing men’s brotherhoods. Usually, they were just girlfriends or colleagues of members of the “secret cults”.
Female cultism includes representatives of the female gender, who come together to reach their sacred goals or for other special objectives. They often meet in forests or other remote locations, make circles, sing songs and read out some spells and invocations.
As for the female cultism in Nigeria, it should be mentioned that a large number of people have affirmed that they are a part of such female gatherings and their participation in their activities.

(9) Kegite club: The next one is “Kegite club”. It is one of the few movements which are still thriving nowadays. In comparison to other, more invasive groups, they don’t follow the principles of the wealth, power, popularity, and revenge. This one is more of a sociocultural movement, which believes that there should be no diversity. Members of this organization are very tolerant. They believe that all ethnic groups are equal, and their major rule is to stay true to themselves. The symbol of this movement is close to nature and it is a green palm.
In general, the cult promotes a number of actions, which propagandize the regeneration of the mind, soul, and body after the tedious day. Also, their ideology has no negative consequences (such as the unreliability, fear, loss of important vital values or deterioration), as many other groups have. They aim for the improvement of individual qualities.

(10) Supreme Vikings Confraternity: De Norsemen Club of Nigeria. The community “Supreme Vikings Confraternity” is also known as “The Adventures” or “the De Norsemen Club of Nigeria”. It was established by a former participant of the Buccaneer confraternity. The symbol of this movement is known as SVC.
Well, as you can see, there are different types of cultism in Nigeria, and all of them have their own objectives and goals. Most of them were originated from universities and they each have their own unique way of self expression. We have shown you a list of the main cultism communities in Nigeria and their symbols. As you may guess there are many others in the country and their number continues to grow annually.


These are the types of men ladies must not date!

These are the types of men ladies must not date!

By: Miss Kadumala

These are the types of men ladies must not date!

Ladies! are you dating? Please no matter how desperate and time conscious you feel during dating, these are the types of men to avoid at all expense.

  1. Divorcee: Most of these men are divorced by word of mouth but in real sense, their wives and kids are lavishing the adjusted  rural life alongside their mothers. Infact in a country like Kenya, most couples don’t divorce, they simply separate and unless you want to find yourself between an emotionally upset couple, avoid a man who claims to be divorced unless there is a written official document to back evidence. Some men will claim divorce and widowership just to get free pussy.
  2. Some broke and jobless men: Some of these men are complete financial liabilities, not because of fate but laziness. Learn who to avoid and who to give a chance. Also learn to differentiate between a potential husband and a potential parasite. Sometimes it’s better to be selfish and put your needs first if broke men are not your overall cup of tea. 
  3. Deadbeats: There’s nothing wrong with dating a baby daddy. Because just as 60% of kids belong to single mothers so are irresponsible fathers of the same percentage. Baby daddies are all over, they deserve a second chance at love especially if they’ve proved to be good fathers to their own. The problem is having to deal with those who neglect their kids. Infact it’s morally and spirituality wrong to date a deadbeat knowingly, because these people do not deserve any love, respect and attention from you, if at all they’re not reciprocating the same to their biological kids. Avoid them lest you get a share of the curses they tag along. The Bible describes deadbeats as worse than non believers. Keep in mind that Non believers are the only people who are destined to perish in eternal hell according to the Bible.
  4. Slay Kings: For obvious reasons, they’re half cooked men. Tall thin, Light skin niggas with an appetite for dressing up and looking pretty. Those ones will make you feel like a man throughout dating infact, they’re fond of scampering for safety to cover their asses first incase a dog chases both of you. 
  5. Dick heads: You will have to live with the fact that their sexual organs are cursed. Infact women who got married to them are used to their many  cowives and offsprings. They have an insatiable desire for sex with different partners.
  6. Hopeless Drunks: they work to drink. They can sell you properties to get high in bear parlors. 
  7. Psychopaths.
  8. Temperamental short men: with an ego problem, violent and obsessive men, men with hormonal outbreaks like that of women (be careful these breeds are more common than you think, some are here in srm ),
  9. Male chauvinist.
  10. Misinformed boy children: most of whom are trained to be nothing more than thieves that steal from women handbags in clubs.



Credit Marriage Pink
Republished: Izobofolo’s Blog

HOW SEX DESTROYED NAOMI’S LIFE – Naomi, was so beautiful, pretty and cute like the most beautiful female journalist at KTN. She was well shaped and every time she was walking around in Jamuhuri estate where she used to live, no man could by pass her without looking at her back. She was admired by almost every man in every place she went to but she fell in love with one guy from Ngong.

They met at Churchill Show at Carnivore Restaurant and that’s where everything started from. The guy was loving and caring. They started as friends but later on became lovers. She loved him so much such that she gave him all her heart. He was the one who was keeping the keys of her heart. Their relationship became so strong. The guy could not wait for their marriage. He started demanding to climb the tree in the middle of the garden of Eden or to ride the mountain bike for 20Km. Naomi, could not resist because she loved him so much.

One day he asked her to spend night with her at Karen Country Lodge in Karen. She accepted in the name of love. Before she could leave for a sleep over, she told her parents that she was going for an overnight prayer meeting at Wold Harvest Int’l- The Hour Of Blessings. Her parents allowed her to go since it was an overnight prayer meeting. From there she took a quick shower. after she finished, she dried herself up and applied some lotion, then she dressed up and left for Karen to meet her lover. She arrived safely and had to meet with her lover. They spent a night together at Karen Country Lodge and the guy did what he really wanted the whole night. No CDs were used. It was a live musical performance.

Naomi got pregnant and the guy dumped her. He left Ngong and started staying in Thika with his elder sister. He even changed his contact number. Naomi, was really heartbroken broken. She was ever crying with her pregnancy till she delivered after nine months at RUNH (Ruaraka Uhai Neema Hospital. She delivered a cute baby girl. The guy was no where to be seen. He forgot about her.

5 years later, she met a guy who was so handsome like her real father. The second guy she met used to live in a very nice place in Kawangware actually a city within a city. He was so caring and loving. It was so interesting the way their relationship started. They knew each other from Prestige Mall where the guy used to work. Every time Naomi came to buy her groceries at Prestige, she could meet with the guy and he could crack jokes and Naomi could laugh out loud. They became good friends and one day he asked for her number and she gave him. They started calling and texting each other almost every day. On his off day he could visit her in Jamuhuri but he never used to reach her home. He could stop somewhere near her place where they had agreed to meet every time he visited her. As days went by, they became so close but Naomi never disclosed to him that she had a kid.

One day when he proposed her she had to share her story and all she went through. She told the guy that she had a 5 year old daughter. The Kawangware guy was so much in love with her so he said, “Sweety, it happens I can’t leave you just because you have a kid. I love you and I will always love you the way and who you are”

Naomi responded in tears, “Honey, I love you more.. please never disappoint me like the previous guy.. hold me tight till the end of time..”

Kawangware guy, “I will definitely do that”

After he graduated from Kenyatta University  where he was doing his part time studies, they got married. He started supporting her daughter (Charity) like a real father. People could not tell that he wasn’t the real father because of the love and care he was showing to the daughter and mother. After he got his degree  from Kenyatta University and got a job with Airtel and stopped working at Prestige Mall. He started making some good income with Airtel. So they shifted from Kawangware as a family and started staying in Hurlingham. In Hurlingham that’s where they had their first child (daughter) and they named her Peggy. The guy was so happy to see and hold his first child in his arms. It was so nice and awesome to have his own child but still he treated his own daughter and step daughter the same. He bought them almost the same things and took them to the same school. So Charity and Peggy never knew that they were step sisters except their parents and some relatives who knew the secret.

Noami, as the mother never wanted to be a house wife for the rest of her life. She also wanted to be doing something so that she could contribute something to the family. So she asked her husband if she could do some studies for herself to start up her own business. Her husband supported her move or suggestion but she could not take a degree because she never had a good grade for the course she wanted Certificate. So her husband enrolled her at Kabete National Polytechnic  under Secretarial Studies. He even bought her a Vitz so that she could drive herself to and from school. From Monday to Friday she could drive herself from home to school till she wrote her final examination and cleared everything. After she got her results, She applied at Daystar University and was accepted and started studying Business Administrationat dip level. In her final year at Daystar, her Ex boyfriend appeared. They met at Arcades and the Ex had to kneel down for her and pleaded for forgiveness as he was shedding tears. Naomi, broke in tears too when she remembered all she went through after he dumped her. They hugged each other and they had lunch together. The Ex humbled himself as though he was not a crook. Naomi’s husband did not know that her Ex was back in Nairobi and their friendship or relationship had begun again. The Ex could follow Naomi at Daystar most of the time and they could talk from there. One day she shared her story with her good friend at Ebru TV and the friend was like, “Please, forget about this EX boyfriend of yours. He will put you into serious problems.

Naomi, “Okay, but I don’t know what to do coz I still love him. He asked for forgiveness and said he was sorry for everything he did to me. He wants us to get back together..”

Friend, “Noami, how will your husband feel when he discovers that you are going out with your Ex”

Naomi, “No wonder am saying i don’t know what to do..”

Friend, “Here is what you have to do: Avoid your Ex. Give him a distance. Don’t entertain him. Delete him from your mind and phone book. He is jealous of your happy marriage. Be very careful you may lose everything”

Naomi, “Okay, thank you so much. I will definitely follow your advice”

Naomi never followed the advice of her good friend at Ebru TV. She continued going out with her EX boyfriend till she was caught in the very act by her husband in Pangani. Her husband was like, “Is this where you do your studies from? Have they shifted Kabete to Pangani?” He slapped her and started beating her Ex boyfriend. After being beaten, the Ex boyfriend ran away. The husband drove home and packed all her belongings. Few minutes later, she also arrived home and her husband was like, “Don’t get inside the house here are your things you can leave with your Ka daughter (Charity). Charity (step daughter) was like, “Dad, what’s wrong?” Step father, “Ofuwo kendo oran! Just get out with your foolish mother” Charity broke in tears. She looked at her mother cried out loud. The husband got the car keys for the Vitz from her hands by force. Naomi, was in tears and she said, “Honey, please forgive me”

Husband, “You thought I was a fool. I have heard a lot about you with your foolish Ex, and todey I’ve witnessed myself. Please go and marry him, malaya hii”.

Charity was shocked and wondered , “What wrong have I done? Why are you chasing me with my mom and leaving out Peggy?”

Step Father, “Am not your dad okay? Ask your mom where your foolish dad is and she will tell you”

Charity, looked at her step dad and her mother and cried bitterly. Naomi and her daughter (Charity) left. They boarded a bus at Yaya Centre and went to Jamuhuri to stay at her parent’s home. Her happy marriage just ended like that. Her Ex boyfriend disappeared from Nairobi again and went to settle at the Coast. Charity, asked her mom who her real father was but her mom never gave her a satisfactory answer. She just said, “Never Mind”

Charity stopped going to school because her step dad stopped paying school fees for her at Brookhouse School. Peggy the real daughter continued schooling and was fully supported by her dad but she missed her step sister Charity. One evening when he came from work she asked him about Charity her step sister. She really wanted to see her. The father was bored with questions about Charity, “Just forget about her. She is not your sister”

Peggy, “Ummmm dad how? I have known Charity to be my real sister and why did you chase her?”

Father, “It’s a long story never mind”

Peggy, “Okay, but I really miss her.. I feel lonely without her”

Charity, was also troubling her mother in Jamuhuri that she wanted to see Peggy. Peggy and Charity loved each other so much as sisters and it was very hard for them to stay apart or separately.

Naomi lost her beautiful marriage. She couldn’t even write her last exam at Daystar. Everything just went sour. She was ever crying at her parent’s home every night. She remembered the words of her good friend from Ebru TV but nothing could be reversed. It was too late to realise and apologise. She lost it all. Every time she remembered how her husband loved her so much she could not hold back her tears. Two weeks later she was found dead in her bedroom. She took some poison according to the postmortem report at KNH.

After they buried, Charity went to see her step father in Hurlingham and when she reached there, she found just about to leave for work. She looked at him and said the following words as she was shedding tears, “Dad, my grandmother in Jamuhuri told me how I was born. I may not be your real daughter or you may not be my real father but I have been raised to believe that you are my one and only father I have ever known in my life. It’s hard for me to live without you and my young sister Peggy… Dad, I want to live with you forever and I love you so much… Please, accept me as your own..” Before she could finish talking, her step dad and sister (Peggy) broke in tears and hugged her. He accepted her as her daughter and started staying with her again. He took her back into school. Peggy was so happy to live with her step sister once again. They could go to school together and study together.

Later on he married an SDA woman who took care of the two girls (Peggy & Charity) at home. The girls had really grown. Peggy was in class 6 while Charity was doing class 8 at Brookhouse school. The girls were also intelligent at school.

Noami’s Ex boyfriend ran mad at the Coast and 5 days later he was found dead in unfinished house.

If you don’t want any problems in your current relationship or marriage or life, forget about your Ex. Give him or her a distance. Don’t entertain them. They will destroy everything.

If you still love your Ex, please don’t jump into another relationship or marriage. Ex boyfriends or girlfriends will always disturb or destory your current relationship or marriage. Some of them are even jealous of your beautiful relationship or marriage. If you Still want your Ex in your life, please don’t engage yourself in any relationship. What good is your Ex going to bring or provide or show now that he failed to do when you were still together?. Please, wake up and grow in mind!! Stay married to your husband or wife,  and live happily forevermore… Good night dear.

Upholding Carnality Over Spirituality In The Name Of Fashion

Credit Marriage Pink


By: Dr chinomso Jude Nwala

THE WOMB – I visited a church yesterday, as i came inside the church and sat down, i discovered that all the ushers in that church were all young ladies and they were all looking good, beautiful, charming, Well dressed, composed and they had cheerful faces. it was as if they selected only the beautiful ladies to do the ushering work. These girls did very well and that made everywhere more organised.

Then in my heart i was saying wow, these girls really look good and beautiful, wow what a beauty, what a ministry material then suddenly God spoke to me very loud and clear, he said to me ” my son its not all about the beauty but the womb”.

I was like God i don’t understand what you mean by “THE WOMB” he said it is not the beauty that matters but the womb, can her womb carry your destiny? Can she carry and bear what you have inside of you?.

He said… My son, some women are meant to carry only 1 child, some 2, some 3, some 5, some 10 while some won’t even bear or carry any one at all. So marry because her womb can carry you. Not just carrying the baby alone but also carry you and what you are born to do.

You are a mobile altar carrying so many destinies inside of you so if the woman you want to marry doesn’t have enough space in her womb to carry it then she is not good for you. If she can carry you as far as you can then she is good to go, if she can carry you both in good times and rough times then she is qualified for you.

What you carry is a global mandate, destinies and generations awaiting manifestation, if her womb can’t carry it then she is not good for you. I can’t forget this…