Dr. Charles Awuzie

HOW TO CUT OFF DRAINING EMOTIONAL TIES IN RELATIONSHIPS – When Are You Going To Cut Those Draining Emotional ties?

The relationship went from wow to sour, and what used to be a fun filled friendship has now become a thorn in your flesh. A part of you tells you to let them go but another deeper side of you still wants to hold on for another moment. Memories of great times you spent together seem to make you forget the other times they let you down. You struggle between letting go and holding on. Your life is at a standstill. Your career is affected. Tears become common. And worse still, you have nobody to talk to because you left everyone just to be with them.
If you are at this point, it is time to cut that negative emotional attachment and set your soul free. This freedom, like other freedoms, might be painful but it is GAINFUL at the end.

An American therapist listed the following as signs that you may be suffering from Toxic Emotional Ties:

1) Being tempted to get back with them even though the relationship was toxic.

2) Having troubles sleeping because of your constant processing of the past.

3) A desire for revenge, or thinking that you are constantly being treated unfairly.

4) Inability to cease obsessing and thinking about that person.

5) Remembering often their words, their judgment, and criticism towards you.

6) Getting emotional over past memories – i.e. we used to eat at this restaurant.

7) Stalking them on social media.

8.) Deep feelings of anger, sadness, and abandonment.

9) Being an emotional wreck and crying a lot.

If you find yourself showing some or all of the signs above, then this article is for you. It is time to literally BURN the past. Yes, consume the past in a literal fire 🔥. Don’t worry, I will help you do it.

Are you ready? 🤔

Pack a matchbox and a notebook 📔 and go to a quite lonely place.
On different pages, write down the names of the people in your past who still have a NEGATIVE hold on your emotions.

Tear out the pages and yell out those names individually. Then loudly say “(mention name) You are no longer in my life and therefore has no right to control my thoughts and emotions. Today I burn 🔥 every memory I had with you. I consider such memories dead and buried.” Then the burn the page 📄 and do same to all the names in your head.

Step on the ashes and spit on them. If you have the contacts of those people, write them and tell them that you just moved on. Tell them that they have lost their grip on your mind. Wish them well and say Goodbye.
Congratulations 🎊

Now you have power over your past and your past no longer have power over you. You are in charge. You have regained control of your mind. This is freedom. You are revived and restored to your original self.

It’s time to go back home. You are going back to a new season. Remember those great projects you always wanted to accomplish, now is the time to start working on them again. Get remarried to your dreams. The first enemy of your future is your past. The burning of your past is the birth of the future.

The only way to win the battle over emotional ties is to literally cut them. Burn the bridge. Emphasis on the word BURN 🔥.

Research shows that humans are more likely to get over something when they see it in ashes than when they think it still exists somewhere. It’s time to wake up to the reality that your past relationships are actually in ashes and doesn’t exist anywhere – not even in your Ex-partner’s mind. It’s time to let go of the people who let go of you.
Burn the memories to ashes. Cut that cord. Regain your heart.
My name is Charles Awuzie and I am your partner in this journey.


Republished by: Theophilus zobofolo

AFRICANS! WHAT ARE WE TEACHING OUR CHILDREN? TO BE CREATORS OR MEDIOCRES. – Africans are we teaching our children to worship God while other countries are teaching their children to be gods?

We teach our children to pray for smart phones and cars, while they teach theirs to invent smart phones and cars. Then our children become adults who go to church to thank God for smart phones and cars purchased from other countries whose children have become adults who invent cars and smart phones. That’s why they don’t need our God because without them our God can’t bless us. It is the cars and smart phones they invent that we give testimony and thank our God for in our churches. Then we go about boasting that it was pastor’s prayers and anointing that gave us these stuff.
We are teaching our kids that “A” is for “Apple” and they are teaching their kids how to turn apples into other products and how to impregnate apples to give birth to beautiful bubbles.

We are still teaching our kids the botanical names of plants while they are teaching their kids how to marry mango and orange to produce ‘man-range.’ They are teaching their kids coding and programming in well equipped schools while we are teaching our kids how to only prophecy and speak in tongues in well equipped churches.


Our children’s school drama is about how to be a pastor or imam while theirs is about how to relocate to a new planet. They boast about conquering Mars, while we boast about hearing dreams and prophecies.

We choose our leaders based on tribe and religion while they choose theirs based on the solutions these leaders bring to the table.

“We are poor yet look rich but they are rich yet look poor. We are doomed if we don’t change our mindset…mediocrity is doing one thing over again and expect different change.”

Please share this post until every Nigerian reads it and changes their mindset. Enough is enough… Madness means thinking the same way you used to think 10 years ago but expecting a different result… If you want real change, then rebel against what you used to know and embrace new knowledge for new results.
As we teach our children how to worship God, let us also teach them how to become gods – creators of solution.

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Theophilus Izobofolo

WHICH VESSEL ARE YOU, VESSEL OF HONOR OR DISHONOR? – But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour. If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work.(2Tim. 2:20-21).

In life and ministry, everyone is not the same. People may look alike, have the same surname, come from the same village, do the same job but the truth is that we all are different. This passage explains to us two kind of vessels we have…

(1) Vessels of gold and silver
(2) Vessels of wood and earth.

Vessels of gold and silver are to honour while vessels of wood and earth are to dishonour.

Not every pastor dressed in suit commands honour, not every pastor dressed in cassock is noble. Some have lost and willingly sold their honour and prestige to the devil. All are not the same. Not all that glitters are gold that is why this passage says there are not only vessels of gold and silver but of wood and earth.

This is to tell you not to be carried away by what you see out there because there are many vessels. There are many vessels o, churches and ministries here and there, pastors both called and the ones that called themselves everywhere but don’t forget that not all are for honour. Not all are for gold and silver. Some are to dishonour.

There is original and there is imitation. So have it in mind that there are real people (gold and silver vessels)and there are fake people everywhere (wood and earth vessels).


In the midst of these kinds of vessels, the original and the imitation, you can be different. You can choose to either a vessel of honour or to dishonour. And for you to be different from this corrupt generation, you need to purge your self. To purge yourself simply means to cleanse yourself, set yourself apart, separate yourself from evil and those who partake in it.

most times it is good for someone to purge because by doing that you excrete so many unwanted stuffs out of your body and once that is done, you discover that your body will be very light.

Until you are purged, you won’t be fit for the masters use. Until you purge yourself, you won’t be used. God doesn’t use dirty vessels but if he must use them, the vessels needs to be set apart, purged and sanctified for his use.

Friends if God must use you to manifest his glory here on earth then you must come out of them and be separated from corruption and condemnation. You won’t be regarded or celebrated if you become vessels of wood. Heaven won’t honour you and no man will honour you as well. But when you become a vessel of gold and silver, your impact will be felt, men will honour you, heaven will smile on you and your legacy won’t be forgotten. Even your 20th generation to come won’t be cut off from your honour.


Ref: Dr. Chisom.


By: Theophilus Izobofolo


The second question God asked man in the Bible was “WHO TOLD YOU” or “who gave you the information”? In Genesis 3:9-11, the Bible says, “Then the LORD God called Adam and said to him, “where are you?” So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.”

And He said, “WHO TOLD YOU THAT YOU WERE NAKED? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?”. What do we make out of these questions? The most important thing was NOT what Adam did, but who gave him (Adam) the information or who was the source of his information? That is, “Who told you that you were naked?”

Do you know the last question man will ask Christ on the last day? In Matthew 7:22-23 the Bible says, “Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name? And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness'”.

Again, what do we deduce from this question? The most important thing will NOT be what they did, but who they did those things for? or who hired them to do those things? Because, it was not Christ that actually sent them, that was the reason He would said to them, “I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness”.

Today, there are so many churches with different teachings and doctrines, so the question is, “Are they all following Jesus Christ?” (Matthew 28:20; Luke 6:46). It is not possible that with their different teachings and doctrines they are all following the same Christ?

The Bible teaches the truth, and this truth does not contradict itself. Churches that contradict one another cannot all be following Christ. The word of God is not contradictory. Jesus Christ, the Word of God cannot contradict Himself. He hates contradictions as well because they import divisions. He hates divisions and dissentions, and urges His body the Church to be one, even as He and His Father are one (John 17: 21-23).

Jesus Christ will always be absent in places where there are divisions. For He had said, “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand” (Matthew. 12:25).

The Bible also says “For God is not the author of confusion” (1 Corinthians. 14:33). The fact that some churches are moving in opposite directions means that Jesus Christ is leading people in opposite directions. Is your Jesus moving you in opposite directions?

Jesus is not an author of confusion and does not approbate and reprobate. When people try to justify divisions among the churches, they make Jesus ridiculously hypocritical. Religious dissentions, divisions, and confusions are not caused by God or His word. They are caused by worldly men and women whose sole purpose is selfish, not serving God and following His word diligently.

Division “openly contradicts the will of Christ, provides a stumbling block to the world, and inflicts damage on the most holy cause of proclaiming the Good News to every creature”. The division among Christians is a serious reality which impedes the very work of Christ. Division contradicts the truth of the Gospel, an essential element of which is the call to unity as a testimony to the world (John 17: 21-23), so that non-believers who meet missionaries each preaching different versions of the Gospel will find it very difficult to believe their different messages.

Divisions and disagreements result because people follow doctrines invented by men and not by God. As more and more human opinions developed, new groups begin to be formed, each like the New Testament church in some ways, yet each holding special human practices and doctrines which make them different from the church of the Bible and from each other. Many people today are following men instead of the Scriptures by which Jesus lived. They allow others to “interpret” Scripture for them, choose a church for them and make decisions for them.

Though they have Bibles, their Bibles are just for public show. How many of them who carry Bible, have actually studied the Bible as a whole? How many of them know what the Bible says in Joshua 1:8 or in Deuteronomy 6:6-9 or in Psalms 1:1-3 or in Psalms 119:99,100 or in 2 Thessalonians 1:8 or even in 1 Timothy 2:4?

You that believe that a man can establish his own church, if God should ask you just as He asked Adam, “Who told you…?” (Genesis 3:11), what will be your response to Him? Or you that believe that a woman can be pastor or bishop of a church, if God should ask you just as He asked Adam, “Who told you…?” (Genesis 3:11), what will be your response to Him?

Adam said it was the woman that gave the fruit to him (Genesis 3:12). The woman said it was the serpent which beguiled her (Genesis 3:13). Whom will you blame? Will you pass the buck to your pastors, or to your priests, or to your general overseers? Can’t you quote two or more scriptural verses to authenticate your stand? Why not hold God by His words?

This is the more reason you shouldn’t believe everyone’s interpretation of the Holy Scriptures. Rather, examine the Scriptures and examine yourself whether you are in the faith. Check to see whether those things that are being said are indeed true, according to the Bible.

Think about the Berean Jews. They didn’t just believe what Apostle Paul had preached to them, but rather, they went home, searched their Scriptures daily to see if those things were so (Acts 17:11). That should be your attitude, too.

Remember this verse: “Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name? And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness'” – Matthew 7:22-23.


By: Andy Akporugo Jr

THE PRIEST AND HIS QUEST FOR KINGDOM – When you have made a hefty payment for a ring side seat to watch the Royal Rumble – an affectionate description for that fierce promise of bloodbath by contenders energized by months of playing very dangerous games of blood and sweat with metals the measure of which more than doubles their own weight – and someone frail from apparently making a sport out of abstaining from training, but who bears visible scars from successive defeats at previous editions of the event on which all are now focused, steps forward blocking your view, and beseeches the contenders, all 68 of them, to essentially hand over to him as winner, the ‘glittering trophy’ for which they swear deathly contention, you are likely to look at your ticket again to see if magic was offered as part of the entertainment. You probably would thereafter seek to grab some understanding of the unfolding event from the reaction of the wrestlers to whom the request is directed. If they discountenance him, then he is excluded from the show and should you wish to insist on the rights of your ticket, you would promptly demand that he clears your view. Otherwise you would undertake the charity of twisting and turning such as to minimize the detriment of his positioning to it.

When the Reverend Chris Okotie wrote letters to the Chairmen of the PDP and APC exactly two months ago today, requesting that their parties adopt him as their consensus candidate for the 2019 Presidential elections, he was like that frail gentleman seeking a tournament’s trophy from outside its contest, offering something not on the ticket, the description of which we are yet unsure. Perhaps if he had claimed that he made the request only in reluctant execution of a celestial errand, then we would sit back and await the miraculous. But he did not. Or did he do so by the implication of his vocation as God’s mouthpiece? Maybe he leaves that matter for their careful discernment!

Whatever the situation, as at today the addressee-Chairmen have neither acknowledged nor replied the letters, although someone loudly swears that they have received and read them. There is a claim that the Chairmen are not quintessential gentlemen – one, an Andoni Prince, being of the stock of pure African royalty and thus way above that description, and the other, a Comrade, tempered by combat experiences at a height quite below it. The culture of either would seem to advise that the content of such a letter should have been presented with the accompaniment of kolanuts, ‘‘ose-oji’’ and schnapps or only after the courtesy of a prior meetings or discussions between writer and addressee; certainly much beyond what a mere office dispatcher or courier company would normally offer.

Whether for the above or other reasons however, it seems clear today that the Chairmen and their parties have simply ignored, even sneered at Mr Okotie’s kind gesture and gone ahead to call and receive money for nominations for the parties’ candidatures for the office of President, as well as fix dates for their respective primaries towards beating the deadlines issued by INEC for the submission of the names of their candidates.

Not being the addressee of the said letter whether personally or as amongst the unfortunate Nigerian mass, and not in either stead given notice of it by express copy of the writer or by reason of its content being published as an open letter, one cannot claim any good courtesy for prying into it. But who cares! Good courtesy is arguably not the great quality of any of the parties to the correspondence at one point or the other, and as that madly enjoyable street bard would say, ‘‘na who courtesy epp?’’. So let’s look at the offerings of the Reverend gentleman, even if from between dark blinds!

Shorn of most of its bombast, Reverend Okotie’s letter says four simple things:

First, that ‘‘Nigeria has become a divided and segregated society like never before…polarized by ethnicity…and religious fundamentalism…political insensitivity and leadership disability’’, all ‘‘existential threats that seek to engender the fragmentation and disintegration of our nation as a holistic entity.’’

Second, that to right these wrongs and meet with the dreams of the founding fathers of our nation, Nigeria, whose ‘‘federalism is simply terminological inexactitude [and]…a realistic piece of fakery…is in dire need of restructuring’’, in respect of which endeavor we would not find help in the constitution as ‘‘the legal protocol that guarantees the peaceful co-existence of autonomous ethnicities’’, it being ‘‘…obsolete, retrogressive and subverse to the Nigerian cause’’

Third, that ‘‘no extant or subsisting government can right these aberrations for obvious reasons of parochial party considerations and entrenched partisan rivalries within the polity.’’

Fourth, that to bring about a wholesome repair, he has ‘‘re-emerged from …political hibernation to contest for the office of President in the forthcoming elections…fully persuaded that Nigeria needs a man who is credible, dependable and trustworthy; a God fearing man who is embroidered with compassion and love for country. A man who will be readily accepted as a symbol of National unity, who can bring genuine reconciliation and guarantee peace and tranquility in our nation. A man who is completely insulated from the variegated conflicts that mark the antecedents of our major political actors’’, and [strikingly similar to the claim of that man who belonged to everyone and no one, although perhaps unintended] ‘‘a man who can apply the principle of malice towards none, and charity for all; who can invoke a pan Nigerian philosophy that rejects the partisan provincialism of finger pointing at this time when Nigeria is threatened by existential adversaries. A man of the requisite intellectual capacity and moral perpendicularity.’’
He believes he is that person but regrettably does not offer any factual basis for others to share his belief.

Certainly Mr. Okotie does not say that his claims that Nigeria’s federalism is essentially counterfeit and her peoples are fiercely divided along primordial sentiments are the outcome of a eureka moment, except perhaps in the same manner that Mungo Park discovered the River Niger, they being facts about which we are already familiar from painful daily experience. And truly, the communication of that reality is not the object of the letter. Its sole purpose is to get the concerned parties to accept him as their consensus candidate mainly upon a recommendation of self, lifted out of indulgent entries in his personal diary.

But to be charitable, he does a little bit more than that when he offers as additional reason for his pick, his proposed mandate to set up ‘‘an interim government …christened GOVERNMENT OF NATIONAL RECONCILIATION AND RECONSTRUCTION as the mechanical instrumentality for the crystallization of the new Nigeria of our dreams.’’ He promises that this would be predicated on a new concept of ‘‘Aboriginal democracy’’ apparently because ‘‘our current democracy has been hijacked by elitism, mysticism and Satanism.’’ He then gives a picture of his Aboriginal democracy when he says that it ‘‘… will focus on cultural historicity, evolutional modernity and global relativity as the necessary ingredients of our evolutional political indigenization.’’

But if this exact inexactitude of his description [I like the sound of that] leaves you scratching your head, he offers a comb, when he elucidates quite curiously, that ‘‘under this system the current legislature would merge with the judiciary to create a unique judicature that administers justices and shares the enactment of legislative responsibilities with the Presidency. This would save us the huge cost of running the national assembly and obviate all the paralyzing debates that often stalls the passage of bills.’’ Ewooooo!!!

Except this letter is intended only as first of a series such that pieces of it are later to be woven to make a good presentation at the end, it is strange for many reasons not the least of which is its apparent illogic. There is also the employment of a strategy in which he apparently suggests solutions in words that make great effort to hide their meanings curiously, at a time in which he admits that we need to act fast ‘‘to avert the manifestation of the great inevitable’’ – much in the same way that proprietary requirements would advise a man discussing his unpatented works! This method certainly questions his trumpeted altruism!

Now a few examples:
i. How does he manage to identify the problems of Nigeria as its polarization by ethnicity, balkanization by religious fundamentalism, fracture by political insensitivity and leadership disability and then leave out any reference to solving these problems by his promised mandate, but instead elect to give an only solution, the main object of which is to ‘‘save us the huge cost of running the National Assembly and obviate all the paralyzing debates that often stalled the passage of bills’’. Where is the nexus?

ii. Why introduce a supposed remedial concept as ‘‘aboriginal democracy’’, perhaps never spoken anywhere else and only offer as its description, the abstraction provided by such elastic, non-meaning words which lamely promise that it ‘‘will focus on cultural historicity, evolutional modernity and global relativity as the necessary ingredients of our evolutional political indigenization.’’ What’s that?

iii. Even if he is accepted as consensus candidate, how does he intend to set up an interim government upon an election that demands a constitutional tenure of 4 years for winners and creates no interim office?

iv. How does merging a National Assembly whose large membership is already constitutionally provided with a judiciary similarly thronged, save the cost of running the National Assembly?

v. In any case how would the judicature function aboriginally?

Questions, many, many unanswered questions.

In all, I believe that the much beloved gentleman’s letter makes a less than stellar case for him and his ideas which perhaps have enjoyed better presentations elsewhere, going by the enthusiasm of a few very enlightened friends of mine who mostly comprise flock for his weekly homilies.

In the meantime, I would enjoy the letter for its well-aimed, though subtle mockery of the political class for not having men with the quality of good, responsible leadership which he carries by divine ‘telescope’ and for its perhaps unintended discourtesy for the 68 other party chairmen to whom no letter was written, perhaps on account of the supposed unflattering size of their relevance. There is also the unspoken superciliousness of the letter’s attempt to determine the destiny of our peoples essentially over their heads; but the cake goes to the quite laughable irony that the Reverend gentleman would depend on the same selfish people who would not redress the problems of Nigeria because of ‘‘reasons of parochial party considerations and entrenched party rivalries’’ to pick him against their interest as consensus candidate.

But then again I am reminded of the scripture in 1st Corinthians that ‘‘God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise.’’ And so we wait!


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