10 UNDENIABLE LESSONS IN MARRIAGE

10 UNDENIABLE LESSONS IN MARRIAGE

  1. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS: Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength.
  2. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK SIDE: No one is an angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. So focus on the present and the future!
  3. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES: Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!
  4. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS: Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.
  5. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR: When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Rumours, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, winning, nagging, PRIDE, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.
  6. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE: There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a MOTOR CAR with a gear oil, gear box, etc If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road and expose the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. – Many of us are careless about our marriage… Are you? If you are, please pay attention to your marriage.
  7. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE: God gives you, her or him in form of raw materials in order for you to mold what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hour but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.
  8. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK: You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes a little fat after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at long last.
  9. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT: Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce, though it’s permitted only in extreme cases.
  10. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY: Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

May God grant us the grace and wisdom to succeed in it. Amen!!!

 

WHO IS ACTUALLY ROBBING GOD IN NIGERIA, MEMBERS OR RELIGIOUS LEADERS? THE CHURCH NEEDS REVIVAL!

 

Republished by Izobofolo Blog

WHO IS ACTUALLY ROBBING GOD IN NIGERIA? MEMBERS OR RELIGIOUS LEADERS? THE CHURCH NEEDS REVIVAL!

BOWEN UNIVERSITY N650,000 per semester. COVENANT UNIVERSITY N640,000 per semester. BENSON IDAHOSA N500,000 per semester. BABCOCK UNIVERSITY N450,000 per semester.

REDEEMERS UNIVERSITY N450,000 per semester. AJAYI CROWTHER UNIVERSITY N350,000 per semester. MADONNA UNIVERSITY N350,000 per semester.

All these UNIVERSITIES were built from TITHES and
OFFERINGS of the common people who now can’t afford
to send their children to these elite schools today.

Where is the morals and responsibilities of the
churches as charity in Nigeria?What is the difference between church and political leadership in Nigeria?

These schools were all built with the sweats of their church members who kept sowing seeds like:
-special offering seeds
-first fruit seed,
-redemption seed,
-thanksgiving seed,
-harvest seed,
-tithes,
-pastor’s seed,
-church building seed,
-evangelism seed,
-father’s day seed,
-mother’s day seed,
-children’ day seed,
-Pastor’s cake seed,
-olive oil seed….etc.

These schools are now elite
schools, only for the rich
politician children who never paid tithe.

The gainers then use the profits to buy private planes & jets to fly up high in luxury, ride Exotic Cars and live in expensive Mansions, while their members, (who are mostly the least of Jesus people) sleep hungry.

The next Sunday, they will read Malachi 3:6-12 to these members again without making reference to Deuteronomy 14:22-29 about their own responsibility to these poor members in their churches.

If you think this is unfair, like me, please pass on this message because this is reality and we also need the CHANGE here!!!

Thank God for early missionaries who built schools and gave basic education FREE or NEAR FREE to many of us including the CURRENT LEADERSHIP of these churches and universities.

The TRUTH is a bitter pill to swallow. ASK THOSE WHO SAW THE REVIVAL OF 1930s,1970s AND 1980s, THEY WILL TELL YOU WHY WE ARE CRYING OVER THIS
“FIRE LESS NESS” WE ARE SEEING IN OUR GENERATION OF BELIEVERS.

John Knox prayed: “Lord, Give me Scotland or I die”…
St Patrick, a rugged believer that Brought even dead animals and trees back to life prayed: “God, Give me souls or give me nothing else”….
Brethren during the Hebrides revival prayed:” Lord, If you will not use us, please, kill us”…

The brethren from England who brought the Fire from Azusa Street revival gathered everyday under the terrible cold. Their only prayer topic was: “Lord, give us men that will spread Your Fire in the streets of England”.

During the Indonesia Revival, those hungry hearts were seen praying day and night: “Lord, The harvest is ripe… If it pleases You, please use us”.
One prayer that was common during the days of William Seymour was: “Lord, this is another day that hell must lose men and women. Please, we are here use us”.
Paul said:” Woe is me if
I preach not the gospel”
Rachel said to her husband, Jacob: “Give me children or I die”

But unfortunately, our churches are filled today
with people who are not ashamed of spiritual
barrenness. We are asking “God give me money. God give me spouse. God give me visa”.
Where do we see believers
again that will be praying and fasting, and when you listen to them, you will be hearing:” Lord, let Your Fire fall on my community and let their be revival”?

When Paul encountered Christ, he fell and rose. What He asked was:” Lord, what will You have me do”. But today, when we fall under anointing, we stand to start expecting marriage proposals and visas and employment letters.

Most of this generation of members in our churches have not had a genuine encounter with the Man of Calvary (Jesus). No generation has carried Bibles like us without opening it. No generation is materially driven like ours and we expect the land to obey us.

Jesus said, pray to the Father that He brings His Kingdom on earth. GOD help us to get it on time. Amen. Let’s build up our spiritual life cos its very necessary.

If you miss heaven you can never miss hell. Think about it. Hell isn’t a pretty place. Do the work of an evangelist now by sharing this message with all your contacts.

Have u ever wondered
what would have happened if we treat the Holy Bible the way we treat our mobile phone?
And we really can’t live without the BIBLE. Don’t send later, send now.

May the Almighty God grant good success to every one who reads & sends this.

HUSBAND SCARCITY – WHY?

By Maryam Habu Shinga


HUSBAND SCARCITY – WHY?

“This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.

“Husband Scarcity” has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today.
If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a “Husband Scarcity” problem?

Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don’t think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.

Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say?

We created what we now see as “Husband Scarcity” for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like “he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable” and then she adds “God fearing” in order not to sound so worldly.

Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, “I cannot suffer in my father’s house and then go and start suffering with a man.”

What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? HUSBAND SCARCITY – WHY?

They simply start lamenting of “Husband Scarcity”. Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.

If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is.

A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS… DON’T CONFUSE A MAN’S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow.

Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating “husband scarcity”.

PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.

And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.”

Stop building mentality of husband scarcity by scaling down your unrealistic aspirations.

OMG! DID YOU HEAR WHAT HAPPENED IN SUMMER OF LOVE?

By: Charles Awuzie


OMG! DID YOU HEAR WHAT HAPPENED IN SUMMER OF LOVE? – First of all, let me state boldly and firmly that Jesus is the beginning of love and He is the end of love. Outside Him, no love exists….. Calm down if this blows your mind, read on.

Sometime in 1967, the 60s Hippies Group organized what they called SUMMER OF LOVE. Please Google SUMMER OF LOVE. Summer of love was an event that sought to promote a CHRISTLESS Love. People were told to love anyone or anything. Do you know where it ended? Wild sex…. Orgies…. Gay sex….. bestiality… Pedophilia…. And all sorts of things… Then Blood Shed…. Murders….suicides … Killings…. Arrests….. Confusion…. Etc.
Over 100,000 people attended the SUMMER Of love, and the end of that ‘love’ event demonstrated that No True Love can exist outside Jesus who came as the Love of God unto us. For more on the summer of love, see this link https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Summer_of_Love

Recently, one of the propagators of the ChristLess love attacked my wife and myself. The attack was so bad that I had to question if she truly knew what love is all about. She then sent a private apology when she realized my wife was getting lawyers in America involved to deal with her defamation of our character and other issues we also know about. While I was wondering how their ‘love’ could be so wicked and heartless, I remembered the event of 1967 – Summer of Love. Everything began to make sense to me. Truly, there’s nothing new under the sun. These things have happened before. People have tried several times to find love outside Jesus Christ….. Just like a woman who tries to seek for love outside her husband or vice versa…. Just when they claim they have found a love without Jesus, bitterness sets in…. Inner pains…. Restlessness…. Loss of focus….. More confusion…. They begin to loss relationships, peace and soon, some of them lose their lives…. This happened in Summer of Love…. This is the story of all CHRISTLESS LOVE.

But on another thought…. Should we love beyond religion? Yes. In fact, a big Yes. The love of our Lord Jesus Christ is not bound by the walls of religion. Jesus brings love to everyone – atheists, Muslims, Christians and those who dangle between atheism and Christ. When you Embrace Jesus, you will find the purest love. Not the kind of love that led to the disaster in 1967. But the kind of love that has kept the universe 🌌 together for millenniums – Love divine. That love that guarantees peace. That love that heals. That love that saved the world. The correct hashtag is #EmbraceJesus not a confusing #Embracelove. What love? Let’s be more specific or at least genuine.

We might disagree on doctrines…. Cool. We might disagree on religion. Cool. But let’s never disagree on the absolute truth that TRUE Love is not in religion but in CHRIST JESUS. Let’s then make it clear to those around us that when we speak about love, we speak about the Love expressed through Jesus Christ. And hey, you also don’t have to make this clear if you are atheist or an unbeliever in Christ. But make it known that you don’t believe in Christ so that those around you will not be deceived. Be transparent. Be genuine in your intentions. Be honest in your presentations. We know love, we believe in love… We are awake to love… Not the love that is ChristLess… But the Love which we found in Jesus. Same love is why we warn the simple minded ones to be careful of anything that represents the SUMMER OF LOVE. We also know that the ancient serpent offered Eve love outside the Truth. Beware of anyone offering you love outside TRUTH. JESUS IS THE TRUTH. In Him is true love. If you argue this simple and plain truth, you are an atheist and we mark you and still love you.

My name is Charles Awuzie and I love you deeply.

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE IS PROVE OF LOVE

By Theophilus Izobofolo


COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE IS PROVE OF LOVE – Once upon a time, a man returned from work and found his wife cooking. She gave him a sweet kiss. They were so happy. While they were  at the dinner table, the woman’s cell phone rang, a message from her friend who wished her good night.

The husband saw the message and got upset, and he did not talk about the matter with his wife and went to the bedroom without having dinner.

The woman looked at her husband and thought: No! You are not right! Are you bothered by a simple message? I will not go after you, you are not a kid.

The woman had her meal and went to bed. The couple had angry sleep and turned their back @ each other that night.

At midnight, the wife was sweating with a lot of fever. She is not able to talk. She touched the husband’s back. He responded with dont bother me attitude, removed his wife’s hand.

The woman without more air, died of heart attack.

In the morning, he woke up, took a bath and prepared his things to go to work.

The wife was still in bed, then the man looked at her and do not think it is very good, but ignored her with the thought of: I will not speak to her, until she does it first!

Then, he dressed up, had breakfast and went to work.

In the afternoon, when the husband returned home, he brought a beautiful watch that he loved for his wife.

When the husband arrived home, he was happy, he is going to give that precious clock to his beloved wife and tell her how much he loved her, how much he was in love with her and would give her many kisses.

Then, he opens the door and goes to the kitchen, because he was ready to surprise his beloved with a big dinner, but he sees that the breakfast was still there; then he thinks: she is still mad at me !!!

The man goes to the room to leave his briefcase, and sees that the wife was still in the bed lying in the same position.

Scared, he goes to her and something tells him she was dead.

The husband cries, cries a lot and more. He screams in despair, because the wife was dead …

REFLECTION: COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE IS PROVE OF LOVE; The time is too short for fights. Know how to take advantage of it.

Take good care of your partner! Love your wife or husband, give him pampering, fill her with kisses, tell her how much he loves or loves her, of love and love !!!

Because time never waited for anyone. Above all do not be proud in love and solve everything, do not go to bed angrily.

Stop and think: If you do not want to put pride aside and solve things, the consequences can be irreversible. Sometimes, we have to sacrifice for love; there are no perfect people, there are real loves willing to sacrifice for that love! .

Communication In marriage is prove of love between couples, and it is always very important, when they have had something difference or discussion, try to solve it before going to sleep. I will not tell you that marriage is honey, that you will never see problems that is a lie, and whoever says that he never fought with his partner is a liar, but everything has a solution except death.