Published by: Izobofolo’s Blog –
I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.
Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the
novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex.
Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve
orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage
or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation
because some ask me what masturbation is.
Some ladies especial fly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It’s a
sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may
wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and
curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep
the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic
movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you
are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and horny? Have sex?
I know you know my answer and some singles will never be
caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They
masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through
solo sex while claiming virginity at theseame time.
Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:
1. Masturabation is not done in isolation. It is done with the
image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity,
a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of
having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating.
That is MENTAL FORNICATION.
2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may
mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your
genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future
partner that you never had sex with man except objects during
your solo sex.
3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women
don’t enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration,
adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting
orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your
husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely
unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ penis are too
small didn’t marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous
4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at
least 7 minutes before ejaculating. But because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair.
Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total
5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have
serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation
where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or
orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough
masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex
with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who
thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get
pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren”
and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment.
Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you
masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel
relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the
pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!
6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown
person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).
7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after
8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You
fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.
9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as
sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or
trousers -you become promiscous.
10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.
11. You are at risk of eternal condemination (hell fire!)
These and more are the consequences of masturbation.
They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!
2. Avoid friends who say dirty, lewd and obscene things. Stop all
sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy,
needful and helpful.
3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.
5. Study the word of God a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word of God, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.
6. Pray and speak in tongues always. It sanctifies you.
7. Make friends with godly people.
8. Avoid pornography and romantic movies.
9. Get busy in kingdom service.
10. Give your life to Jesus if you are not born again. He will
surely help you out.
Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful.
Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it.
Jesus can help you.