By: Evangelist Theophilus
IS SEX EVIL OR GOOD?
SEX – The topic frequently in the mind of most young adults and even old people no matter how spiritual, yet, the least talked about.
It is an act people engage in frequently but feel uncomfortable to talk about.
The information most people have on it are obtained from the ‘gutters’ because traditional institutions and other standard channels of communication and education will not talk about it. When they do, it is in hush tones.
I remember a friend hosted me on radio for a few weeks as we explored sexual dysfunctions among adults. By the third week, the program director had ordered the program shut down. May be I was too blunt, calling a spade a spade.
Many people know the danger of sex, both physical and spiritual but no one seems to be comfortable to talk about it’s good sides and the factors that influence them.
In many quarters and to many people, sex is just a necessary evil. I have met married couples who often felt guilty after having sex with themselves and I kid you not. A newly married guy once told me, he has been asking for forgiveness of sin after having sex with his wife and he couldn’t place why.
Some of you speak in tongues immediately after having sex with your wives, you know yourselves. It may not be because you are spiritual. You are probably battling with subconscious mixed feelings involving guilt over appropriateness of sex, even within matrimony. There are many who have become poorly sexually adjusted by reason of the things they have been taught while growing up about the evil in sex. This followed them to their matrimony.
A story was told of a king who newly became a Christian, in the mediaeval times who commanded his wife to be burnt at the stake the following morning after having sex with her. Her offence? He claimed She enjoyed “the pleasure of sin” by moaning during sex. This is how “her ringing tone” sent her to an early grave. But it was not really her fault, she died due to the ignorance of an overzealous king who was mistaught and misguided that sex is inherently evil.
Friends, much has been said about how the devil uses sex to destroy people to the point that Sex now looks like the creation of Satan.
Truth be told, sex is good, when used appropriately. Sex is a gift from God and not from the devil. The devil only seeks to pervert it. Many petty problems that happen in marriages for which you disturb your pastors can be deleted by just one mind-blowing sex between couples. Yes! You heard me right.
Today, a lot of people suffer from various sexual dysfunctions but they can’t talk about them for fear of being viewed as “spoilt” or sinful.
I once attended to a man who had been running from home simply to avoid the chance of sexual encounters with his wife. He worked shifts in a Hotel so he decided to do all the shifts, just to stay away from home.
This man could not sustain erection for more than 2 mins and he was in a mismatched relationship with a woman who wanted it for thirty minutes and more. The fear of poor performance drove him from home.
I insisted on seeing the wife and the day she showed up, it was drama. She did all the talking as she pounded away on my table. “My body is not wood…” He has to do something about this otherwise…. ” she yelled. It was one threat after another. Then she grabbed her hand bag and left without completing the session. To a stranger like me, she simply cut the picture of trouble and I could only imagine what the man was going through in her hands.
Now, here’s the point. There are many women in this position but they don’t know they are a serious part of the problem. Let me tell you something. In a committed relationship (not hit and run) , the woman retains the power to either sustain a man’s erection or to kill it.
About 50 percent cases of erectile problems in men are purely of psychological origin. The brain is the most important sexual organ, not the genital. If a man’s mind is at rest in the home and he’s happy with you, he will have erection with you. This is basic truth.
I once attended to a woman who previously had been dragging her husband to pastors for prayers and made him a prayer point among her prayer partners for inability to perform in bed. I requested to see her husband as usual and after much hesitation, he showed up. It turned out the man had no erectile problem unless the wife was involved. He said if he had full erection and his wife as much as touched him with a finger, he would lose it. In his own words there had been some conflicts and It was a delicate peace they had had at home. The wife had been winning all the arguments in the house without knowing she was also losing the man. What they needed was conflict resolution, not prayer vigil or medication. Dear woman, your mouth can do wonders, both physically and psychologically. If you know, You know…
Worse still some women will be behaving as if they are lame in bed. They can’t use their hands and they won’t use their mouths. They Just lay down like universal recipients. What kind of tradition is that? What has that got to do with holiness?
I know by now somebody is thinking this man is spoiled o, or may be his account has been hacked. If you read up till this point and you haven’t stopped, na you spoil pass! So let’s continue…just kidding!
Women are not left out as victims in this sexual problem. As a matter of fact, more than 50 percent of women don’t know what orgasm is, in all their existence. They hear people talk about it but they don’t believe it really exists and they are scared of asking their husbands to help explore possible ways to achieve this. Many of them don’t even get aroused with their husbands but they can’t talk about it. Many husbands have turned themselves to terrorists in their homes.
Dear husbands, I need your help. How do you manage to speak in tongues and still throw punches at your wives? There are testimonies of godly men who never raised a finger against their wives of many decades in spite of provocations. Please follow the examples of these men and stop damaging your wife physically and emotionally. That “Mike Tyson” in you must die finally. May God’s grace be sufficient for you.
It is so unkind to abuse your woman and get home only to pull her panties like a mechanic trying to start a generator. What is your intention? It doesn’t work like that.
Let there be mutual respect in the home. Resolve conflicts as they come. This has tremendous effect on what happens beneath the sheets. Like I said before, the human brain (the seat of the mind) is the most important sexual organ, not the genitals.
Ladies and gentlemen, if you have any question or objections, kindly ask your pastors and pastors’ wives or go see a therapist, not me. I’m a learner ooh.
It is a new day!