Workplace Rules For Happy Life 

By: World Health Organization (WHO)

Republished by: Izobofolo’s Blog


Workplace Rules For Happy Life

1. Trust no one but respect  everyone.

2. What happens in office, remain in office. Never take office gossips to home and vice versa.

3. Enter office on time, leave on time. Your desktop is not helping to improve your health.

4. Never make Relationships in the work place. It will always backfire.

5. Expect nothing. If somebody helps, feel thankful. If not, you will learn to know things on your own.

6. Never rush for a position. If you get promoted, congrats. If not, it doesn’t matter. You will always be remembered for your knowledge and politeness, not for your designation.

7. Never run behind office stuff. You have better things to do in life.

8. Avoid taking everything on your ego. Your salary matters. You are being paid. Use your assets to get happiness.

9. It doesn’t matter how people treat you. Be humble. You are not everyone’s cup of tea.

10. In the end nothing matters except family, friends, home, and Inner peace.

Mental health in the workplace

During our adult lives, a large proportion of our time is spent at work. Our experience in the workplace is one of the factors determining our overall wellbeing. Employers and managers who put in place workplace initiatives to promote mental health and to support employees who have mental disorders see gains not only in the health of their employees but also in their productivity at work. A negative working environment, on the other hand, may lead to physical and mental health problems, harmful use of substances or alcohol, absenteeism and lost productivity.

WHO

Depression and anxiety disorders are common mental disorders that have an impact on our ability to work, and to work productively. Globally, more than 300 million people suffer from depression, the leading cause of disability. More than 260 million are living with anxiety disorders. Many of these people live with both. A recent WHO-led study estimates that depression and anxiety disorders cost the global economy US$ 1 trillion each year in lost productivity.

Mental health in the workplace is the theme of World Mental Health Day 2017. World Mental Health Day is observed on 10 October every year, with the overall objective of raising awareness of mental health issues and mobilizing efforts in support of better mental health.

World’s Mental health day theme by WHO.

Mental Health at work place

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WHY MOST FATHERS ARE NEGLECTED IN OLD AGE

Republished by: Izobofolo Blog


WHY MOST FATHERS ARE NEGLECTED IN OLD AGE – In the lifetime of family settings, there are 3 dispensations of power.

A. The 1st is the first 25 years in the life of the family  (Father, Mother & Children), where power indisputably rests with the Father.

B. The 2nd is after the kids have grown & started working, when the power shifts to the Mother.

C. The 3rd is when the Kids move out of the Family house or Start their own Families, when the Power moves to the Children.

  1. We’ll start from the 1st Dispensation. Total dominance of the father. He is the Lion of the Tribe of his House. The boss.

  2. During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen.

  3. The father often vents out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him.

  4. The father is the provider for the family & everyone is aware of that fact with all attendant consequences.

  5. Then the 2nd Dispensation sets in. The children have finished school and have started working. Power shifts to the mother.

  6. When the children start earning their own money, for some reason, it’s their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her.

  7. While the father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn’t have much time to be a friend to the children.

  8. They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father’s tyranny.

  9. The mother takes centre stage at this point. She is the first to know what’s happening with the children & she has advantage.

  10. Should any of the daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the children spoil her with gifts.

  11. At this stage, the father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their mother but that boat has sailed.

  12. Because the mother doesn’t rely much on the father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his lordship. Friction.

  13. Then the 3rd and last dispensation. Power has shifted to the children. They are self-sufficient, live on their own & have own families.

  14. More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father & mother, the children side with the mother.Years of joint- victim hood at play.

  15. Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father not to ‘disturb’ their mother. Next thing, extended visitations.

  16. Woe beside the father if his finances are precarious at this stage. You will be humbled by force. The gang-up is real.

  17. This causes most men to fall ill & develop different complications. By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well.

  18. Stroke, Hypertension, High-Blood Pressure. The man has a large family but no relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought.

  19. Moral, dear men, while the power lies with us, let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won’t be with us forever.

  20. With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her?

  21. What relationship do you have with your family? Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider?

  22. Remember, the children always side with their mother. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife.

  23. Invest wisely for the future so that you won’t have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.

ADVISE TO CHILDREN:- IT IS NOT GOOD TO ABANDON YOUR FATHER WHO DENIED HIMSELF TO GET YOU PREPARED FOR LIFE & WHO SACRIFICIALLY SOWED TO MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE.

HONOUR YOUR BOTH PARENTS & TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM IN THEIR OLD AGE. THAT IS HOW YOU TOO WILL SOW INTO YOUR FUTURE.

DONT LET NEGLECTING YOUR FATHER ( OR PARENTS ) BE A CURSE ON YOU INTO YOUR FUTURE.

ADVISE TO MOTHERS:- DON’T INCITE YOUR CHILDREN AGAINST THEIR FATHER.

Parenthood Is Not Easy Despite Its Joys. There Is No Manual On How It Works

Wishing All Of You A Very Healthy, Wonderful, Blessed, Peaceful, Prosperous & Happy life.

Credit: Naira land

The Importance of Good Character


By Theophilus Izobofolo


The Importance of Good Character

The desire for success I believe is one of the greatest motivators for action in the lives of people. Everyone has a desire to be recognized for something they are good at. If you have ever sought out to accomplish a task, or if you have ever felt angry because of an obstruction towards a goal, then you have implicit attested to this statement. No matter what you desire to attain to as your definition of success, you must recognize that there is no true success without a good character to back it up.

Character guides our responses to issues we face in life as we work toward success. Our character is who we are and what we do. It is important that we have a foundation of strong character because our responses to life’s issues determine the quality of our results. Character is a summation of our thoughts, values, words, and actions, which in turn become the habits that determine how successful we are in life. Integrity is the foundation of any lasting success, and at the heart of integrity is good character.

Human character is formed at the core of the human being. It is who we are when “nobody” is looking. A person can create a facade of how they intend for people to perceive their personality and their actions, this facade is what we know as reputation. Our reputation is the summation of who/what everyone thinks about us. Too often we hear of good people, reputed for being successful in their field, who have fallen from great heights because of a weakness in their character. What many fail to understand is that the character weakness is nothing new; the effects of a character flaw are amplified as we rise up the ladder of success.

When we see a tree, we see its fruits, leaves and branches. The fruit that grows on the tree represents what kind of tree it is. I’m pretty sure, to a 100% level of certainty, that if I see oranges growing on a tree, it is an orange tree. However, though I see the tree, its trunk, branches and leaves, there still exists a root system below the ground that is hidden. On average, tree roots spread close to 3 times the spread of the branches, so that a tree with an 8-foot branch crown spread would have a 24-foot root spread diameter. The root is what keeps the tree grounded. This is why Jesus in teaching said, “Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.  Therefore by their fruits you will know them.” (Matt.7:17-20). The principle here is that a person’s character is an overflow of the state of their heart.

This is why it is important that we examine ourselves from time to time. For you to succeed in life, you must learn to listen to the voice of your conscience. Rather than silence the inner voice at the core of your humanity, you need to objectively check yourself to see if your words, thoughts, actions and attitudes line up with what’s fundamentally true and noble. In addition you must ask yourself if there are aspects about your personality that others complain about? Successful people have learned to be sincere and consistent on the basis of truth. Your self assessment is not to impress anybody, rather it is to ensure you are taking the right steps in line with what you hold to be true.

I believe that God has inscribed a sense of morality on human hearts through the natural law. However, through Scripture (absolute truth) we are able to form a Christ centered conscience and a moral guide to strengthen our character. The good news is that by your decision you can make a change to areas in which you fall short in character. With every pressure that comes against your character development, you can use it as an opportunity for growth and development. It is important to know that the quality of your character will not just get better with time; it must be intentional.

Reference: Maro Mamora

I KEPT MY VIRGINITY BUT LOST MY PURITY

Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala


I KEPT MY VIRGINITY BUT LOST MY PURITY – There are so many teachings today about virginity, someone said he so much desired to marry a lady that is a virgin like himself, as good as that sounds, it is not the ultimate.

So I’m not in any way undermining the sanctity of VIRGINITY.

But unfortunately, more emphasis has been laid on virginity at the detriment of purity, Lots of young people believe that virginity and purity are synonymous thinking if you are a virgin then you are sexually pure.

Hear this…

You can be a VIRGIN and STILL BE A FORNICATOR, You can be a virgin and still be guilty of sexual immorality, in other words, YOUR VIRGINITY CAN BE INTACT, whereas YOUR PURITY IS LOST.

I KEPT MY VIRGINITY BUT LOST MY PURITY – Read what Jesus said:

But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Mathew 5:28).

So you discovered that the issue of fornication/adultery has gone pass virginity. The sin is committed in the heart before the outward manifestation, Purity is not just about whether you’ve had sex before or not, Purity is about being sexually pure inwardly and outwardly, purity is not an event, it’s a lifestyle…

So many youths are only concerned about keeping their virginity (which is good) but less concerned about what they do with their body, so many are still involved in pornography, dry-humping (caressing their bodies with clothes on), masturbating, lustful kissing, homosexuality, sexual imaginations and all other foreplays.

All those sexual activities render you impure, regardless of whether you are a virgin or not, If you are a virgin, strive not to lose your virginity to anyone other than your husband or wife, if you’ve lost your virginity, strive not to continue in premarital sex.

But above all strive to be sexually pure and live a life of holiness in all ramifications!

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DON’T LOSS YOUR VALUE WHILE SEARCHING FOR VOLUME

By: Izobofolo’s Blog

DON’T LOSS YOUR VALUE WHILE SEARCHING FOR VOLUME – She gave her car key to the youngest child in the car while she went to buy some stuff in the mall.

Upon her return, the boy had misplaced the key and the whole family was stranded on the road.

Observing her discomfort with innocent kids without a masculine shepherd, I joined the search party.

For each passing minute without the key, she landed the boy that had the key with a slap or a concentrated curse!

After few minutes, she strayed in frustration into a motorbike’s way and was knocked down.

It was in the process of helping her up and picking the pieces of her belongings that the car key was found.

She had already lost herself before the key was found!

Many people lose themselves in search of what is missing in their lives.

Many lose their moral limb while searching for the “missing rib”!

Some lose their health while searching for material wealth.

I know those who lost their message while searching for relevance and sponsors.

Some lose their marriage while searching for a mirage.

Some have lost their integrity while looking for affinity.

Don’t get missing because something was lost. Sometimes, you just need to ignore the emotional missing link so you can remain spiritually connected.

Don’t lose your mind because the job is lost.

Don’t lose your children while searching for their school fees.

Don’t lose your ministry while searching for tithes and instruments.

Don’t lose your mantle while searching for title.

When those things are eventually discovered or acquired, greater things (yourself, relationship, character, values & virtues) would have probably dissolved!

The apostles were looking for peace in the midst of storm, but by the time Jesus restored calmness they had lost their faith.

Similar way Elimelech lost his life and sons in search of greener pastures.

When you eventually get the hammer, will your nail still be strong to hold the woods of your integrity in a frame?

By the time you get popular, will you not be strange to dignity?

By the time you get visa or fame, will your passport to purity not have torn?

When you eventually make the money, will your marriage, friendship, relationships, still have meaning?

God bless you

Think about it…