CAUSES OF SUICIDE AND DEPRESSION

CAUSES OF SUICIDE AND DEPRESSION

(1) WHEN THERE IS FAMINE IN THE LAND:-

When the society, land or country is moving forward, this can lead to a serious depression and then suicide. In a country where the government has failed to provide jobs and eliminate poverty but choose to keep the country stagnant by enriching themselves only can cause one to think of committing suicide.

There are so many graduates scattered on the streets of Nigeria who have tried to secure a job but was turned down and rejected. When there are no Jobs, it causes poverty and when there is poverty, there is hunger and when there is hunger, it can make some to begin to hear strange voices telling them to end their life by giving them reasons to believe that they are not needed here. Until this is handed well, the stoppage of suicide is not guaranteed.

(2) WRONG RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE:-

This is another tool and instrument Satan uses to cause depression in the hearts of people and make them kill themselves. Wrong relationship and wrong marriage can cause depression and lead to suicide when one of the spouse threatens to leave the relationship or maybe cases of cheating and being caught and avoiding being exposed.

If the relationship you are into now is giving you serious headache, please gently walk away from it. Any relationship that gives you trouble and threatens your peace of mind won’t last long and can harm you if you continue to push further. Just walk away from with without saying a word and make yourself happy. Apart from God, no one can love you better than yourself.

(3) LACK OF PATIENCE :-

Lack of patience can make someone depressed and then lead to suicide. You can have everything you want in your own time. It can’t and will never happen in your own time. It can only be possible in God’s time. If God had promised you something, please wait for it. God is not a man that he should lie. He can’t forget his promises towards you.

It will take a little time but trust me it will surely come to pass. As long as rapture tarries, please keep waiting on him. I know that it has started choking you but please hold on a bit. The answer is older than the problem.

“For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry”. (Habakkuk 2:3).

(4) NOT BEING ROOTED IN GOD’S WORD:-

When a Christian, a child of God, a believer is not rooted and planted in the word of God, it can create room for familiar spirits to afflict him/her with the spirit of depression and then suicide. When you are rooted in God’s word, the devil can’t overcome you. When you are rooted in the word of God, you will be able to dictate the strange voice of Satan when he is speaking.

When you have strong root in God’s word, there are scriptures that you can use to defeat depressions and overcome them. Satan always wants you to see reasons to hate yourself, he wants you to see the inability in you without seeing the God giving abilities in you. But when you know your stand in God’s word, you can take your stand and rebuke him.

(5) REFUSING TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:-

So many youths are depressed today because they refuse to believe in themselves. Everyone has a God given ability in him/her. And until you activate it, it will remain dormant.

Since the government has failed the youths which are the leaders of tomorrow, you can choose to make a difference. You can be creative, you can be self employed. Yes you can do it only if you will believe in yourself. The strength is in you, the talent and gifts are all dwelling in you.  Just tell yourself “I CAN MAKE IT”.  Once you believe on yourself and work towards it, the spirit of depression and suicide won’t have access into you.

Ending your life by yourself is not the best. You can be the best thing happening in your generation…

 

(Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala)

GOD FEARING IS NOT A QUALITY

By: Dr. U.Mick

GOD FEARING IS NOT A QUALITY

Listen guys, i wish someone had told you this before now, let me quickly show you what it means to be unequally yoked with unbelievers as it concerns relationships, I think you should learn this perspective:

If only you knew how much time you have wasted searching for a God-fearing partner. If only you knew how many potential life partners you have missed because you’re too busy looking for a good Christian Jesus loving God-fearing partner.

Listen guys, God-fearing is not a quality people posess, it is WHO THEY ARE, it is a NATURE people carry, a lot of us do this, we write all kinds of things we are looking for in a life partner; must be God-fearing, must be spiritual, does not smoke/drink, a faithful tither, passion for Kingdom things etc.

Naaa, these things are not necessary because God fearing is not a quality but a nature, you cannot carry the nature of God and still be a drunk, you cannot carry the nature of God and not be a kingdom addict and a God chaser. So what am looking for is a “COMPATIBLE” partner in a group of “God-fearing men”! Not God fearing partner among “incompatible men” That is the big difference.

A lot of us make the mistake of believing that just because a person is saved and single it means we are equally yoked, no we aren’t. Just because a person is born again don’t mean that the yoke is equal, no it isn’t…

You can be equally yoked in quoting scriptures of the Bible, you can be equally yoked in attending church services every Sunday, sitting at the front row, you can be equally yoked in participating actively as leaders in your departments at church, you can be equally yoked in desiring the things of God, just like the scripture puts it, been saved gives us the privilege of being a member of the body of Christ.

But,

Are you equally yoked in character? Are you equally yoked in forgiving a hurt? Are you equally yoked in forgetting past deeds? Are you equally yoked in getting a job to support each other financially? Are you equally yoked in allowing the issues of the family stay in the family? Are you equally yoked in placing each other’s needs first before your own needs?

There is a lot to the understanding of that scripture, especially when it comes to the area of dating and marriage. People try to run away from yoking with unbelievers, only to turn around and enter into an unequal yoke with a believer. *They might be GOOD for you, but that doesn’t make them RIGHT for you.

Two believers will struggle if they have different  perspectives about Marriage. Two believers will struggle if they obey different doctrines or principles of a Godly relationship, and this is where some of us slightly miss the concept of yoking,  we must first be equally yoked in Christ through faith, and then be equally yoked with each other through character/COMPATIBILITY.

So stop looking for a God-fearing partner, go to the Den of God-fearing people and find the one that is SUITABLE for you, that’s the secret. Hope someone catch this Rhema?

Dr. U.Mick

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PROSTATE HEALTH AWARENESS  

PROSTATE HEALTH AWARENESS

Gentlemen,

I am here to speak with you on Prostate. The topic is misleading. Is prostate strictly for men? Yes, ONLY men have prostate and ONLY men over 40 years but the healthcare enlightenment is for everyone. There is no woman who does not know a man 40 years and above, father, uncle, brother, son, friend, neighbour, colleague…

Essentially what I will be doing today is health promotion. Responsible health promotion must provide three things:

  1. Information

  2. Reassurance

  3. A plan of action.

Let me start with a background on prostate health.

Everyone has a pair of kidneys. The job of the kidney is to remove waste. It is the LAWMA (waste management company) of your body. Everyday your blood passes through the kidney several times to be filtered. As the blood is filtered, urine is formed and stored in a temporary storage tank called the urinary bladder.

If there were to be no urinary bladder, as a man walks on the road, urine will be dropping.

Now think of the plumbing work in your house. Think of the urinary bladder as the overhead storage tank. From the storage tank, a good plumber will run pipes to other parts of the house, including the kitchen. God in His wisdom ran pipes from our urinary bladder to the tip of the penis. The pipe is called the urethra. Just below the bladder and surrounding the urethra is a little organ called the prostate gland.

The prostate gland is the size of a walnut and weighs about 20grams. Its job is to make the seminal fluid which is stored in the seminal vesicle. During sexual intercourse, seminal fluid comes down the urethra and mixes with the sperms produced in the testicles to form the semen. So semen technically is not sperm. It is sperm + seminal fluid. The seminal fluid lubricates the sperm.

After age 40, for reasons that may be hormonal, the prostate gland begins to enlarge. From 20 grams it may grow to almost 100 grams. As it enlarges, it squeezes the urethra and the man begins to notice changes in the way he urinates.

If you have a son under 10, if he has a little mischief like we all did at that age, when he comes out to urinate, he can target the ceiling and the jet will hit target. Call his father to do same, wahala dey. His urine stream is weak, cannot travel a long distance and sometimes may come straight down on his legs. So he may need to stand in awkward position to urinate.

Not many men will be worried their urine stream cannot hit the ceiling. Toilets are on the floor and not on the ceiling. But other symptoms begin to show.

TERMINAL DRIPPLING:

The man begins to notice that after urinating and repacking, urine still drops on his pants. This is the reason why after an older man urinates, he has to ring bell. A younger man simply delivers to the last drop and walks away. Just see an older man coming from the bathroom. Sometimes he may clutch the newspaper closely to hide the urine stains, particularly on plain colored trousers.

HESISTANCY

At this point you wait longer for the urine flow to start. There are 2 valves that must open for you to urinate – the internal and external sphincters. Both open but because of obstructions in the urethra, you wait longer for the flow to start.

INCOMPLETE EMPTYING

You have this feeling immediately after urinating that there is still something left.

As all these things happen, the bladder begins to work harder to compensate for the obstruction in the urethra. The frequency of urination goes up. Urgency sets in. Sometimes you have to practically run into the toilet. Nocturia also becomes common. You wake up more than 2 times at night to urinate. Your wife begins to complain.

Men being men may not talk to anyone even at this point. Then the more serious complications start.

Stored urine gets infected and there may be burning sensation when urinating.

Stored urine forms crystals. Crystals come together to form stone either in the bladder or in the kidney. Stones may block the urethra.

Chronic urinary retention sets in. The bladder stores more and more urine. The size of the bladder is 40 – 60cl. A bottle of coke is 50cl. As the bladder stores more urine it can enlarge up to 300cl. An overfilled bladder may leak and this leads to wetting / urinary incontinence. Also the volume may put pressure on the kidney and may lead to kidney damage.

What may likely bring the man to hospital is acute urinary retention. He wakes up one day and he is not able to pass urine.

Everything I have described above is associated with prostate enlargement, technically called benign prostate hyperplasia.

There are other diseases of the prostate like:

  1. Prostatitis – inflammation of the prostate

  2. Prostate cancer – cancer of the prostate.

This discussion is on prostate enlargement.

I have bad news and good news.

The bad news is that everyman will have prostate enlargement if he lives long enough.

The good news is that there are life style changes that can help the man after 40 to maintain optimum prostate health.

NUTRITION

Look at what you eat. 33% of all cancers, according to the US National Cancer Institute is related to what we eat.

Red meat everyday triples your chances of prostate disease. Milk everyday doubles your risk. Not taking fruits / vegetables daily quadruples your risk.

Tomatoes are very good for men. If that is the only thing your wife can present in the evening, eat it with joy. It has loads of lycopene. Lycopene is the most potent natural antioxidant.

Foods that are rich in zinc are also good for men. We recommend pumpkin seeds (ugbogulu).

Zinc is about the most essential element for male sexuality and fertility.

Men need more zinc than women. Every time a man ejaculates he loses 15mg of zinc. Zinc is also important for alcohol metabolism. Your liver needs zinc to metabolize alcohol.

ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION

As men begin to have urinary symptoms associated with prostate enlargement, it is important they look at alcohol consumption. More fluid in means more fluid out.

Drink less. Drink slowly.

EXERCISE

Exercise helps build the muscle tone. Every man should exercise. Men over 40 should avoid high impact exercise like jogging. It puts pressure on the knees. Cycling is bad news for the prostate. We recommend brisk walking.

SITTING

When we sit, two-third of our weight rests on the pelvic bones. Men who sit longer are more prone to prostate symptoms. Do not sit for long hours. Walk around as often as you can. Sit on comfortable chairs. We recommend a divided saddle chair if you must sit long hours.

DRESSING

Men should avoid tight underwear. It impacts circulation around the groin and heats it up a bit. While the physiological temperature is 37 degrees, the groin has an optimal temperature of about 33 degrees. Pant is a no – no for men. Wear boxers.  Wear breathable clothing.

SMOKING

Avoid smoking. It affects blood vessels and impact circulation around the groin.

SEX

Regular sex is good for the prostate.

Celibates are more pronenn to prostate illness. While celibacy is a moral decision, it is not a biological adaptation. Your prostate gland is designed to empty its contents regularly.


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WHAT IS MATURITY?

By: Juliet Ehimhen

WHAT IS MATURITY? I used to think that maturity was about age and physical development, how wrong I was. I have since found out that age is only but a number, below are 20 definitions of MATURITY

(1) Maturity is when you accept other people the way they are and their level of maturity.

(2) It is when you understand that your ideas are not always the best.

(3) Maturity is when you learn to let go even if it pains.

(4) It is when you are able to drop expectations from a relationship and give for giving sake.

(5) It is when you understand that whatever positive things you do, you do for your own peace.

(6) Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how RIGHT OR SUPERIOR you are.

(7) It is when you stop comparing yourself with others because life is not a competition.

(8) It is when you understand that you can’t and shouldn’t always get what you want every time.

(9) It is when you are contented and satisfied with your life and yet aspiring to be better everyday.

(10) It is when someone hurt you and you understand their attitude and stay clear, rather than trying to hurt them back.

(11) It is when you start thinking about other people and not just yourself.

(12) It is when you know you can’t please everyone.

(13) It is when you see things in different perspectives – far beyond the way they seem.

(14) Maturity is when you love more and judge less.

(15) Maturity is responsibility

(16) Maturity is Love

(17) It is the application of wisdom and knowledge in humility.

(18) It is when you accept that your accomplishment, failures, destiny, reputations and virtually everything about your life depends on God’s will and the choices you make and not pointing fingers at others.

(19) It is when someone hates you and you still pray for them to succeed.

(20) It is knowing God, serving Him with all that you’ve got and pursuing His Kingdom no matter what people think or say

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SIX SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIED MEN

THE FOUR TEMPERAMENT THEORY

By: Theophilus Izobofolo


THE FOUR TEMPERAMENT THEORY

The Psychologists researchers have discovered why human behaviours differ from one person to the other. Man know thyself!

(1) CHOLERIC
(2) MELANCHOLY
(3) PHLEGMATIC
(4) SANGUINE

I would therefore walk you through a brief descriptions of these character traits

(A) CHOLERIC :-
(1) They are naturally proud.
(2) They are very extrovert.
(3) They are domineering.
(4) They love to lead and direct affairs.
(5) They mostly seek to be in control of situations.
(6) They always want to be on top and be seen.
(7)  They exhibit high level of resilience.
(8) They usually do not relent, until they’ve succeeded.
(9) They are easily angered.
(10) They are hot tempered

They are irascible, choleric are alphas of our species..

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(B) MELANCHOLY:-

(1) They are undoubtedly gloomy of (expecially when an act/situation becomes habitual or prolonged)
(2) They are perfectionists.
(3) They are also idealist, who want things to be done in certain way ( therefore, they do not vouch for mediocrity).
(4) They only award/appreciate excellent performance/results.
(5) They are generally finicky.
(6) They hold themselves and others to unrealistically high standards.
(7) They enjoy individual studies/learning than group learning.
(8) They delight in breaking & setting new records.
(9) They are generally bookworms.
(10)They easily get distressed when expectations/standards are not met.
(11) They are generally neat, organized and focused

Melancholia does not easily share because he/she believe you can’t handle it the way he/she wants it.

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(C) PHLEGMATIC:-
(1) They are generally meek, submissive and introverts.
(2) They live to please others ( epitome of eye service).
(3) They are also workaholics .
(4) They do not act as if they are better than others.
(5) They are eager to please others rather than asserting their own desires.
(6) They are not easily excited to actions or display of emotion, apathetic, sluggish etc…
a? They are extremely slow – pace and stubborn.
(7) They go through life doing as little as possible, quietly and expending little energy.
(8) They are very emotional, yet, able to accommodate/tolerate everyone.
(9) They are not daring due to unnecessary apprehensions.
(10) They are easily persuaded.
(11)They are able to endure pressure or hardship.
(12)They are not sex fun and can survive for long without sex.
(13)They are mostly vulnerable to social vices

Phlegmatic mostly performs abysmal in leadership positions…

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(D) SANGUINE:-
(1) They are easily noted by their cheerful mood.
(2) They are very optimistic, hopeful & confident.
(3) They are boisterous, bubbly, chatty & openly emotional.
(4) They are socially extroverts.
(5) They easily forgive and let go.
(6) They love to comment on whatever they see/hear.
(7) They find social interactions with faces both familiar and unfamiliar.
(8) They have mastery over emotional tendencies.
(9) They do not intentionally plan to learn, yet, they are able to grasp information just by audio or visual
(10) They are often disorganized and faults in their discretions.

Sanguine easily commit unpardonable mistakes…(cheating in relationship)

CONCLUSION…

These are inbuilt abilities or virtues God, in His infinite wisdom has deposited in every human being_

These characteristics differentiate you from the rest, making you distinct.

It must also be noted, that one person can exhibit all the four categories, however, one of them would dominate or be profound

NOTE THIS…

None of these four temperamental traits is EVIL, you only have to know/identify yourself and manage it

It’s expedient to know yourself in order to help you know others

This shall enhance your healthy relationships with every individual

Reference: Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala