IS SEX EVIL OR GOOD?

By: Evangelist Theophilus


IS SEX EVIL OR GOOD?

SEX – The topic frequently in the mind of most young adults and even old people no matter how spiritual, yet, the least talked about.

It is an act people engage in frequently but feel uncomfortable to talk about.

The information most people have on it are obtained from the ‘gutters’ because traditional institutions and other standard channels of communication and education will not talk about it. When they do, it is in hush tones.

I remember a friend hosted me on radio for a few weeks as we explored sexual dysfunctions among adults. By the third week, the program director had ordered the program shut down. May be I was too blunt, calling a spade a spade.

Many people know the danger of sex, both physical and spiritual but no one seems to be comfortable to talk about it’s good sides and the factors that influence them.

In many quarters and to many people, sex is just a necessary evil. I have met married couples who often felt guilty after having sex with themselves and I kid you not. A newly married guy once told me, he has been asking for forgiveness of sin after having sex with his wife and he couldn’t place why.

Some of you speak in tongues immediately after having sex with your wives, you know yourselves. It may not be because you are spiritual. You are probably battling with subconscious mixed feelings involving guilt over appropriateness of sex, even within matrimony. There are many who have become poorly sexually adjusted by reason of the things they have been taught while growing up about the evil in sex. This followed them to their matrimony.

A story was told of a king who newly became a Christian, in the mediaeval times who commanded his wife to be burnt at the stake the following morning after having sex with her. Her offence? He claimed  She enjoyed “the pleasure of sin” by moaning during sex. This is how “her ringing tone” sent her to an early grave. But it was not really her fault, she died due to the ignorance of an overzealous  king who was mistaught and misguided that sex is inherently evil.

Friends,  much has been said about how the devil uses sex to destroy people to the point that Sex now looks like the creation of Satan.

Truth be told, sex is good, when used appropriately. Sex is a gift from God and not from the devil. The devil only seeks to pervert it. Many petty problems that happen in marriages for which you disturb your pastors can be deleted by just one mind-blowing sex between couples.  Yes!  You heard me right.

Today, a lot of people suffer from various sexual dysfunctions but they can’t talk about them for fear of being viewed as “spoilt” or sinful.

I once attended to a man who had been running from home simply to avoid the chance of sexual encounters with his wife.  He worked shifts in a Hotel so he decided to do all the shifts,  just to stay away from home.

This man could not sustain erection for more than 2 mins and he was in a mismatched relationship with a woman who wanted it for thirty minutes and more.  The fear of poor performance drove him from home.

I insisted on seeing the wife and the day she showed up, it was drama. She did all the talking as she pounded away on my table.  “My body is not wood…” He has to do something about this otherwise…. ” she yelled.  It was one threat after another.  Then she grabbed her hand bag and left without completing the session. To a stranger like me, she simply cut the picture of trouble and I could only imagine what the man was going through in her hands.

Now, here’s the point.  There are many women in this position but they don’t know they are a serious part of the problem. Let me tell you something.  In a committed relationship (not hit and run) , the woman retains the power to either sustain a man’s erection or to kill it.

About 50 percent cases of erectile problems in men are purely of psychological origin. The brain is the most important sexual organ, not the genital.  If a man’s mind is at rest in the home and he’s happy with you,  he will have erection with you. This is basic truth.

I once attended to a woman who previously had been dragging her husband to pastors for prayers and made him a prayer point among her prayer partners for inability to perform in bed.  I requested to see her husband as usual and after much hesitation,  he showed up. It turned out the man had no erectile problem unless the wife was involved.  He said if he had full erection and his wife as much as touched him with a finger, he would lose it. In his own words there had been some conflicts and It was a delicate peace they had had at home. The wife had been winning all the arguments in the house without knowing she was also losing the man. What they needed was conflict resolution, not prayer vigil or medication.  Dear woman,  your mouth can do wonders, both physically and psychologically. If you know, You know…

Worse still some women will be behaving as if they are lame in bed. They can’t use their hands and they won’t use their mouths. They Just lay down like universal recipients. What kind of tradition is that?  What has that got to do with holiness?

I know by now somebody is thinking this man is spoiled o,  or may be his account has been hacked.  If you read up till this point and you haven’t stopped, na you spoil pass! So let’s continue…just kidding!

Women are not left out as victims in this sexual problem. As a matter of fact,  more than 50 percent of women don’t know what orgasm is, in all their existence.  They hear people talk about  it but they don’t believe it really exists and they are scared of asking their husbands to help explore possible ways to achieve this.  Many of them don’t even get aroused with their husbands but they can’t talk about it.  Many husbands have turned themselves to terrorists in their homes.

Dear husbands, I need your help. How do you manage to speak in tongues and still throw punches at your wives? There are testimonies of godly men who never raised a finger against their wives of many decades in spite of provocations. Please follow the examples of these men and stop damaging your wife physically and emotionally. That “Mike Tyson” in you must die finally.  May God’s grace be sufficient for you.

It is so unkind to abuse your woman and get home only to pull her panties like a mechanic trying to start a generator. What is your intention? It doesn’t work like that.

Let there be mutual respect in the home.  Resolve conflicts as they come. This has tremendous effect on what happens beneath the sheets. Like I said before, the human brain (the seat of the mind) is the most important sexual organ, not the genitals.

Ladies and gentlemen, if you have any question or objections, kindly ask your pastors and pastors’ wives or go see a therapist, not me. I’m a learner ooh.

It is a new day!  

REASONS WHY MEN ALWAYS ASK YOU FOR SEX

THE BURDEN OF RELIGION VS THE UNFORCED RHYTHMS OF GRACE 

By: Evangelist Theophilus


THE BURDEN OF RELIGION VS THE UNFORCED RHYTHMS OF GRACE 

There are many in the church today that are carrying heavy loads that have nothing to do with their faith in Christ. They are burdened by a lot of obligations that have been placed on them by the religious system.

The long list of obligations to be met, all in an attempt to procure  God’s favor and be loved by Him stares them in the face, day in day out. That’s what they have been taught. Much like the Pharisees during Jesus’ earthly ministry, their teachers have laid heavy burdens on them.

But when Christ came He declared to his listeners “come unto me,  all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest”.

Friends, rest is what Christ brought you, not religion, and definitely not a long list of obligatory meetings, conferences, programs, offerings and sacrifices.

Check it well sir, If it is getting too burdensome, there’s no Christ in it.

If it is getting too heavy, it doesn’t belong in Christ. It doesn’t belong in your new testament reality. Rather it is in the domain of mere religion. Believe me, much of what goes on in the denominations is mere religion.  The deeper you go into religion, the more burdensome it gets.

But Christ has called you out of religion unto himself, why sink back into it?

Please take a good look at The Message translation of Mt. 11:27-29:

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest.

“Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you.

” Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Matthew 11:28‭-‬30 MSG.

From the foregoing, it is abundantly clear that if it is “heavy” then it is not in tandem with the “unforced rhythms of grace”. Let no man deceive you into paying a heavy sacrifice that is outside of you willingness. No sacrifice can be heavier than the one at Calvary. And it was done on your behalf.

Friends, It may interest you to know that aside the “mega pastors” that get tongues wagging by their bogus teachings and ostentatious lifestyles, many young and unsong pastors are depressed, anxious and worn out. Yes, they are burnt out on religion. They bear heavy burdens that Christ Has not put on them.

They are under pressure to remit money to the headquarters. They want to build “befitting places” of worship. They want to  start counting “their members” in several thousands.

They want signs and wonders to validate their calling before men. They want a raised profile to the status of “international conference speakers”. They are struggling to  “network”. They want the fame, the money and the influence.

Many think they are in ministry but they are not. They are fiercely in business. Beneath their pius skin is a desperate lust for self-projection and ego-pampering. They have been caught in a rat race.

In the same vein, they muzzle their members by teaching all kinds of ill-timed messages. They lay on them all kinds of burdens in order to achieve the things misconstrued as “success in life and ministry”.

In the long run both the pews and the pulpits are caught in a thick web of religion. The “rest” that Christ promised is lost on them. It is a given, religion will wear you out,  but Christ will give you rest.

Dear friend, on what divide are you? Are you in religion or are you taking a rest in Christ Jesus? The choice is squarely yours.

“But there remains a Sabbath-rest for the people of God……”

You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.

Reference: NINYO

CHRISTIANITY VERSES RELIGION

CAUSES OF SUICIDE AND DEPRESSION

CAUSES OF SUICIDE AND DEPRESSION

(1) WHEN THERE IS FAMINE IN THE LAND:-

When the society, land or country is moving forward, this can lead to a serious depression and then suicide. In a country where the government has failed to provide jobs and eliminate poverty but choose to keep the country stagnant by enriching themselves only can cause one to think of committing suicide.

There are so many graduates scattered on the streets of Nigeria who have tried to secure a job but was turned down and rejected. When there are no Jobs, it causes poverty and when there is poverty, there is hunger and when there is hunger, it can make some to begin to hear strange voices telling them to end their life by giving them reasons to believe that they are not needed here. Until this is handed well, the stoppage of suicide is not guaranteed.

(2) WRONG RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE:-

This is another tool and instrument Satan uses to cause depression in the hearts of people and make them kill themselves. Wrong relationship and wrong marriage can cause depression and lead to suicide when one of the spouse threatens to leave the relationship or maybe cases of cheating and being caught and avoiding being exposed.

If the relationship you are into now is giving you serious headache, please gently walk away from it. Any relationship that gives you trouble and threatens your peace of mind won’t last long and can harm you if you continue to push further. Just walk away from with without saying a word and make yourself happy. Apart from God, no one can love you better than yourself.

(3) LACK OF PATIENCE :-

Lack of patience can make someone depressed and then lead to suicide. You can have everything you want in your own time. It can’t and will never happen in your own time. It can only be possible in God’s time. If God had promised you something, please wait for it. God is not a man that he should lie. He can’t forget his promises towards you.

It will take a little time but trust me it will surely come to pass. As long as rapture tarries, please keep waiting on him. I know that it has started choking you but please hold on a bit. The answer is older than the problem.

“For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry”. (Habakkuk 2:3).

(4) NOT BEING ROOTED IN GOD’S WORD:-

When a Christian, a child of God, a believer is not rooted and planted in the word of God, it can create room for familiar spirits to afflict him/her with the spirit of depression and then suicide. When you are rooted in God’s word, the devil can’t overcome you. When you are rooted in the word of God, you will be able to dictate the strange voice of Satan when he is speaking.

When you have strong root in God’s word, there are scriptures that you can use to defeat depressions and overcome them. Satan always wants you to see reasons to hate yourself, he wants you to see the inability in you without seeing the God giving abilities in you. But when you know your stand in God’s word, you can take your stand and rebuke him.

(5) REFUSING TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:-

So many youths are depressed today because they refuse to believe in themselves. Everyone has a God given ability in him/her. And until you activate it, it will remain dormant.

Since the government has failed the youths which are the leaders of tomorrow, you can choose to make a difference. You can be creative, you can be self employed. Yes you can do it only if you will believe in yourself. The strength is in you, the talent and gifts are all dwelling in you.  Just tell yourself “I CAN MAKE IT”.  Once you believe on yourself and work towards it, the spirit of depression and suicide won’t have access into you.

Ending your life by yourself is not the best. You can be the best thing happening in your generation…

 

(Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala)

WHAT IS THIS “GOSPEL OF IMMORTALITY”?

By: Evangelist Izobofolo, Theophilus


WHAT IS THIS “GOSPEL OF IMMORTALITY”?

It appears to me the crave for immortality is a reality man can’t escape. It seems the desire is innate and man can’t help himself from seeking ways and means to achieve it. Although people may not say this directly, their actions often betray them. Even those who do not believe in God would admit they desire immortality if they would be honest enough.

Various steps people take, among others, to immortalize themselves include:

(1) Prioritizing Male Children Above Female Children:

Although this may not apply to all cultures, men in some cultures would do anything humanly possible to have a male child because of the belief that the male child sustains the lineage and family name. If their first wife is unable to bear a male child they could marry another wife or get a concubine outside to get them one. Some may even divorce their first wife and marry a concubine who has been able to bear a male child to replace her. Those who want to stay faithful would keep trying until the wife can no longer bear or their economy can’t accommodate more children.

(2)Street Naming:

Some pay handsome amounts of money to the local authorities to get streets named after them. This, they do to immortalize themselves. Sometimes it is the society or the government that names streets after people because of their immense contributions to the society. They often say they do this to immortalize the persons.

(3) Monument Building:

People build monuments in form of statues, public facilities and sometimes whole institution to immortalize themselves.

(4) Immortality Through Work:

People seek to immortalize themselves through their work. They do this through inventions, innovations, extraordinary altruistic acts and writing.

(5) Immortality Through Leadership:

Some seek immortality through leadership. They say they want to leave a good legacy for future generations.

These and others are ways and means by which the natural man seeks immortality. Does any of these confer immortality on them in the real sense of the word? The answer is capital NO! None of these attempts confer immortality on anyone.

As far as the Scripture is concerned, only God has the power of immortality. He is the only one who cannot die either physically or spiritually. He is the only one who can give eternal life or immortality to man.

“Who only has IMMORTALITY, dwelling in the light which no man can approach unto; whom no man has seen, nor can see: to whom be honor and power everlasting. Amen” (1Tim 6:13-16)

Not only does God have the power of immortality, He has also commanded man to consciously seek immortality through Christ.

“16  For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

18  He that believes on him is not condemned: but he that believes not is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.” (John 3:16 & 18)

“9  Who has saved us, and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began,

10  But is now made manifest by the appearing of our Savior Jesus Christ, who has abolished death, and has brought life and immortality to light through the gospel.” (2Tim 1:9-10)

We know that it is not enough to mentally assent to Christ, the seeker of immortality must also deliberately believe Christ and obey Him.

“6  Who will render to every man according to his deeds:

7  To them who BY PATIENT CONTINUANCE IN WELL DOING seek for glory and honor and immortality, eternal life:

8  But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath.” (Rom 2:6-8)

Despite we are told we have immortality through Christ, we are also told God has appointed a day in His own timing when our mortal (corruptible) bodies would be transformed to immortal (glorious or incorruptible) bodies. The whole of 1 Corinthians 15 is devoted to this subject.

“51  Behold, I show you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed,

52  In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.

53  For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.

54  So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory.

55  O death, where is your sting? O grave, where is your victory?” (1Cor 15:51-55)

This is the final consummation of our redemption called the resurrection. Concerning this, the Bible says the whole of creation earnestly awaits and we that have the firstfruit of the Spirit yearn.

“19  For the earnest expectation of the creation waits for the manifestation of the sons of God.

20  For the creation was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who has subjected the same in hope,

21  Because the creation itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God.

22  For we know that THE WHOLE CREATION GROANS AND TRAVAILS IN PAIN TOGETHER UNTIL NOW.” (Rom 8:19-22)

Though the proponents of Dominionism would have us believe Romans 8:19-22 is about the attainment of earthly dominion in this present age by a privileged group who have access to special revelations that are not available to all, this scripture isn’t talking about such. Rather, it is about the consummation of our redemption which would happen at the second appearing of Christ. Romans 8:23 says the manifestation that all the creation and the believers earnestly await is the redemption of our bodies (the resurrection of the saints). It is not a superhuman manifestation of Christians as it’s being erroneously taught.

” And not only they, but ourselves ALSO, WHO HAVE THE FIRSTFRUITS OF THE SPIRIT, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, WAITING FOR THE ADOPTION, THAT IS, THE REDEMPTION OF OUR BODY.” (Rom 8:23)

Verses 24 and 25 of the chapter categorically say we are saved by hope and we should patiently wait for this hope. That is, we should patiently wait for the resurrection of our bodies on the last day.

” 24  For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man sees, why does he yet hope for?

25  But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.” (Rom 8:23-24)

Of late, I have noted with great concern some brethren who go about preaching what they call “the gospel of immortality” which is quite different from what the Scripture says. They say their bodies would attain immortality in this present life through the special revelation they’ve got.

Some of them also appear to be pushing special revelations that are not documented in the Bible.

Please permit me to humbly warn that this move has taken too much upon itself. Let those who are into it retreat because it won’t end well.

Of a truth the Gospel of Christ is the Gospel of immortality but nowhere in the entire scriptures of the Old and New Testaments are we told our bodies would attain immortality until the resurrection day.

Though, the proponents of this doctrine may think what they are saying is new, they need to be aware it isn’t new. What they are teaching is not in reality different from the teachings of an old group called “Manifest Sons of God”. This move is a rejuvenation of the old sect.

They should also note the humiliation the people who said they won’t die until Christ’s second coming suffered in the past. They all had to eat their words. Why would anyone want to go through that again?

Let those who are involved be aware of the dangers of establishing doctrines with extrabiblical revelations. It’s like opening a Pandora box that has a beginning but no end. Once the frontiers of scriptural revelation have been shifted to establish a doctrine, there would be no end to the number of strange doctrines that would follow.

As far as the salvation of mankind is concerned, there is nothing new to be revealed. Please, note that the Scripture is not given to satisfy human curiosity. No one, except God, knows the day the resurrection would happen. This is why He is God. Let’s be content with the faith as it was once delivered to the saints. Shalom!

Reference: Dr. Abiodun 

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What Does It Mean To Be A New Creation

By: Bishop William B. Caractor


What Does It Mean To Be A New Creation (2 Corinthians 5:17)?

The new creation is described in 2 Corinthians 5:17: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!”

The word “therefore” refers us back to verses 14-16 where Paul tells us that all believers have died with Christ and no longer live for themselves.

Our lives are no longer worldly; they are now spiritual. Our “death” is that of the old sin nature which was nailed to the cross with Christ.

It was buried with Him, and just as He was raised up by the Father, so are we raised up to “walk in newness of life” (Romans 6:4).

That new person that was raised up is what Paul refers to in 2 Corinthians 5:17 as the “new creation.”

To understand the new creation, first we must grasp that it is in fact a creation, something created by God.

John 1:13 tells us that this new birth was brought about by the will of God.

We did not inherit the new nature or decide to re-create ourselves anew. Neither did God simply clean up our old nature; He created something entirely fresh and unique.

The new creation is completely new, brought about from nothing, just as the whole universe was created by God ex nihilo, from nothing.

Only the Creator could accomplish such a feat.

Second, “old things have passed away.” The “old” refers to everything that is part of our old nature—natural pride, love of sin, reliance on works, and our former opinions, habits and passions.

Most significantly, what we loved has passed away, especially the supreme love of self and with it self-righteousness, self-promotion, and self-justification.

The new creature looks outwardly toward Christ instead of inwardly toward self. The old things died, nailed to the cross with our sin nature.

Along with the old passing away, “the new has come!” Old, dead things are replaced with new things, full of life and the glory of God.

The newborn soul delights in the things of God and abhors the things of the world and the flesh. Our purposes, feelings, desires, and understandings are fresh and different.

We see the world differently. The Bible seems to be a new book, and though we may have read it before, there is a beauty about it which we never saw before, and which we wonder at not having perceived.

The whole face of nature seems to us to be changed, and we seem to be in a new world.

The heavens and the earth are filled with new wonders, and all things seem now to speak forth the praise of God.

There are new feelings toward all people—a new kind of love toward family and friends, a new compassion never before felt for enemies, and a new love for all mankind.

The things we once loved, we now detest. The sin we once held onto, we now desire to put away forever.

We “put off the old man with his deeds” (Colossians 3:9), and put on the “new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness” (Ephesians 4:24).

What about the Christian who continues to sin? There is a difference between continuing to sin and continuing to live in sin.

No one reaches sinless perfection in this life, but the redeemed Christian is being sanctified (made holy) day by day, sinning less and hating it more each time he fails.

Yes, we still sin, but unwillingly and less and less frequently as we mature. Our new self hates the sin that still has a hold on us.

The difference is that the new creation is no longer a slave to sin, as we formerly were.

We are now freed from sin and it no longer has power over us (Romans 6:6-7).

Now we are empowered by and for righteousness. We now have the choice to “let sin reign” or to count ourselves “dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus” (Romans 6:11-12).

Best of all, now we have the power to choose the latter.

The new creation is a wondrous thing, formed in the mind of God and created by His power and for His glory.