MARRYING IRRESPONSIBILITY

By: Andy Akporugo


MARRYING IRRESPONSIBILITY

It used to make literal meaning to refer to marriage as the art of settling down, such that when one decided to get hitched, it wasn’t so that they could float in the air, alone or together, but essentially to settle down in a house, to a home. Today however it would seem that many married couples, although having shared apartments, actually belong in the street or some unkind offices where serious work is pretended for long hours, in far distances. Home is where they sleep and keep their wardrobes and bathrooms!

And sometimes in between seasons of work and other outdoor self-serving endeavours, sperms too tired to walk back home stumble onto errant eggs late to leave the stalls, and by God’s good graces, an addition is made to the travesty of a union, unto chants of halleluiahs! The child is called a gift from God unto our care, but soon enough we wake up to our reality. The reality of work and money over all; and so soon, very soon we begin to fit the requirements of care of this gift-child into the little spaces that we constrain ourselves to create, to the discomfort of our personal preferences. We seek to do an act only achieveable by love, inconveniently or even grudgingly.

MARRYING IRRESPONSIBILITY

We all suffer from working. Kitchens built to enjoy the heat and aroma of good cooking are made to adjust to a life of want, as families are majorly fed out of freezers and microwave ovens – devices which consume rather than vomit heat and aroma. Parents leave home before the children are awake and return when they are asleep and in between, for every requirement of good parenting, a hand is hired. Yet good parenting is always a straddle between administering care and giving as well as enforcing instruction to shape the child’s mind, the latter pair of which requires to be effective, a certain measure of authority and control, along with a regard of the instructor with some awe by the child – a very dangerous situation when we consider that the instructor of the child of these well trained parents is invariably some ill-bred, badly educated person who is mostly unhappy with their job!

Many times, we may try to supervise these child minders by periodic checks to ensure that our fundamental instructions are what they execute and not theirs, but how much do we expect to achieve really when we are likely to always receive positive report by the natural conspiracy of a minder unwilling to work hard and a child happy to be saved the rigours of good training? Marrying Irresponsibility!

Yet, work isn’t every day. Leisure has full custody of the weekends, except that once again, this has become mainly an outdoor event, spent in Churches, association meetings, scheduled events, salons and designer shops of noisy chatter, and seedy bars of sports witnessing; and at end we all have children of whom we know nothing and whose physical resemblance of us is actually a reproach to us for our failure to pass on the care we mostly received from our own parents, who dealing with the same issues of work we grapple with today, handled it differently for our sakes. This is how we have succeeded in churning out children who know no history and can’t speak their traditional languages, adolescents whose only vision of dance is sexual; children for whom love is an expression of weakness; ‘shortcut’ children for whom domestics isn’t ‘hip’ and who not used to a double-bath daily, look good in dresses of perfumes and body sprays; those whose knowledge of fashion is demonstrated by skimpiness and ghoulishness and whose bodies are a canvas for all kinds of art and embarrassing pinholes for all kinds of jewelry, those who have been taught to pursue individual freedom to such extents as to search for love within their own genders; they whose genius is in inventing illicit drugs, whose mouths are as foul as their breath and who having been raised in our absence on the infallible logic of strange civilizations elsewhere brought to our homes by cable TV, are very well armed to defeat our late efforts at restitution after we have done our share of work for this lifetime.

Well, at some point we must understand that our most important job, to ourselves and society, is to rear our children right, by personal supervision. It is not a job that we can afford to abdicate under the excuse of delegation, the pursuit of financial provisions and the contestation of locating between the sexes whose direct responsibility it is to perform.

Marrying Irresponsibility…

Greetings!

How The Bible Demonized Women In Their Period

By: Charles Awuzie


How The Bible Demonized Women In Their Period

Let’s read Leviticus 15:19-24 “Whenever a woman has her menstrual period, she will be ceremonially unclean for seven days. Anyone who touches her during that time will be unclean until evening. 20 Anything on which the woman lies or sits during the time of her period will be unclean. 21 If any of you touch her bed, you must wash your clothes and bathe yourself in water, and you will remain unclean until evening. 22 If you touch any object she has sat on, you must wash your clothes and bathe yourself in water, and you will remain unclean until evening. 23 This includes her bed or any other object she has sat on; you will be unclean until evening if you touch it. 24 If a man has sexual intercourse with her and her blood touches him, her menstrual impurity will be transmitted to him. He will remain unclean for seven days, and any bed on which he lies will be unclean”.

Chaiiiiii…This is heartbreaking!

Someone asked me why more women are joining the apostolic reformation and rebelling against religion and I said “that’s because women have woken up to the realization that religion was a gender weapon to weaken the power of the woman…” Let me shock you… Nothing is more powerful than a non religious woman – she goes for what she desires without guilt or shame. The weakest of all humans is also the woman who succumbed to religion.

I heard a certain Nigerian female pastor support tithes and I laughed at her ignorance. The same Jewish old testament that established tithing also established misogyny – strong contempt, prejudice or dislike against women. So if she’s truly a follower of the old testament, she should consider herself unclean when she menstruates. Listen, the law was faulty. The law was wrong. The law doesn’t represent God’s love. So the law which is the foundation of religion is not God’s will for us. Hence Grace and Truth came through Jesus Christ. Forget about the laws and focus on the finished work of Christ.

Guys, if you keep all the laws but touch what a menstruating woman touched, you are an offender. That’s what the Bible says. Oh yes.

What’s my point? Women should embrace grace because the law and its religion is against them – both in Judaism, Christianity and Islam. Every religious law is against the woman.

Any woman who teaches or supports any religious law is either ignorant or a hypocrite.

I wanna see hashtags like #WomenForGrace #NonReligiousSlayQueen or #GracedLady trend among our sisters.

I hate religion because it hates women.

My name is Charles Awuzie and I stand for freedom from religion.

Maranatha!

GENERAL YAKUBU GOWON’S ADVISE TO BUHARI

General Yakubu Gowon


GENERAL YAKUBU GOWON’S ADVISE TO BUHARI

“There was corruption in Nigeria when Awolowo built Cocoa House, TV station and the first university in Africa.

There was corruption in Nigeria when IBB built Third Mainland Bridge, built Aso Rock, National Assembly Complex, turned Abuja into our Federal capital territory.

There was corruption in Nigeria when Obasanjo brought Gsm, banking reform, police reform and civil defence, There was corruption in Nigeria when Jonathan introduced BVN and PVC, built 12 new federal universities, revamped railway lines, made Our economy fastest growing in Africa & third in the world.

If anyone tells you the reason Buhari is not working is that he inherited corruption, tell them great leaders don’t blame people and events for their failures. They simply accept responsibilities and move on. Ask them, what has Buhari done after all the fake promise of fixing power in 6wks, reducing pump price to #45 naira, making N1 equal to a $ 1, stopping Boko Haram etc. It’s a shame.

The inferno truth is, corruption started from heaven when Satan violated a privilege given him. That never stop God’s works.

He waited for God to create man and brought his lawlessness and corruption into the garden of Eden.

God wasn’t moved. He introduced a redemption plan; The Savior was born, sadly, Judas Iscariot was there.

Not discouraged yet, He gave us God the Holy Spirit.

GENERAL YAKUBU GOWON’S ADVISE TO BUHARI – If anyone tells you the reason Buhari is not working is that he inherited corruption, tell them corruption is rooted in the DNA of homo sapiens ( Latin: wise man ) because we are just mere mortal infected with a virus of good & evil.

Yet, great leaders don’t blame people and events for their failures. They simply accept responsibility and move on.”

GENERAL YAKUBU GOWON’S ADVISE TO BUHARI

18 Ways for Digital Nomads to Make Money (All you need is a laptop, Wi-Fi and some wanderlust)

By: Carolyne Sun


18 Ways for Digital Nomads to Make Money

All you need is a laptop, Wi-Fi and some wanderlust.

someone who lives in different cities and earns a living online — and she makes it work by having multiple income streams, including managing real estate sublets around the world, directing a documentary film through grant money and freelance writing. She’s also in the final stages of launching an online life-coaching business.

The reasons for pursuing the digital nomad lifestyle are attractive and numerous, and for Hough, she says, “Besides seeing new places and cultures and having adventures is finding people like myself. In Chiang Mai, I am never looked at askance for not having a ‘regular job’ or for constantly traveling. It’s always just ‘Where are you from, what do you do, where are you going next?’”

Whatever the motivation is for seeking remote work, the numbers show that this segment of the workforce is on the rise. Arecent analysis by FlexJobs shows the remote workforce, while not exactly synonymous with digital nomadism, has surged almost four-fold in the past decade, from 9 percent of U.S. workers working remotely occasionally in 2007 to 43 percent in 2017. The two work trends speak to people’s growing desire to be free from the confines of a stationary office and life. Over the next decade, it’s predicted that 38 percent of the full-time workforce in the U.S. will be remote, and there’s a crop of job sites dedicated to serving this shift to remote jobs and those seeking them, such asRemote.co, Remoteok.ioFlexJobsWorking NomadUpwork and Outsourcely

For those serious about becoming a digital nomad, it takes more than just a laptop, wi-fi, country-specific SIM cards and power adapters to make it work. Hough maintains a core discipline: She’s not on vacation. “The main rule of my life is to remain responsible by always having wi-fi access, responding almost immediately and,” she says, “most importantly by far, maintaining strong personal relationships everywhere I go and with everyone I work with to the best of my ability.”

If you’re looking to join the growing tribe of digital nomads, here are 18 slides with ideas to get you started.

Related: 8 Ways to Make Money As a Digital Nomad

6 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Entrepreneur

By: Kimanzi Constable


6 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Entrepreneur

Success in entrepreneurship is not an end destination. It’s a daily battle to be your best version of yourself even as you put out information, services and products that help your customers’ lives. It’s a constant work in progress that requires consistent effort. The “laptop lifestyle” version of entrepreneurship exists only in misleading Facebook ads.

Related: 6 Words That Will Forever Change How You Wake Up in the Morning

Running a successful business means planning for the future. You should have monthly and yearly goals. But, to be successful with those goals requires their daily implementation. Here are six things you can do every day to become a better entrepreneur and one who accomplish all of your biggest goals.

1. Plan each day the night before.

Yeah, I know what you’re thinking: duh. You know that it’s important to plan the night before, yet, many who will read this DON’T. You wake up and “wing it” all day hoping to be productive –and that’s a terrible strategy. To make the most of each day, you need a solid plan.

This plan includes knowing what’s important and what’s a wish. There are things that have to get done and things that can wait. We tend to want to do the easier tasks, but that may be hurting your business. Spend some time each night getting honest about where your focus needs to be.

2. Wake up a little earlier.

What time you wake up is a personal choice, but you should wake up early enough to have some you time. There should be some quiet time each morning to reflect, refresh and get re-energized. You can spend this time meditating, praying and engaging in some physical exercise. Getting your blood pumping and clearing your mind are elements of a formula many successful entrepreneurs use daily.

3. Start your day with positivity.

As you wake up earlier, have a plan for what you will feed your mind with. I’m not going to tell you to avoid email and social media. I am going to tell you to feed your mind with inspirational and motivation content. The specific media isn’t important: podcasts, videos, books, magazines, etc. What is important is to not let negativity ruin your day before it’s even started.

6 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Entrepreneur

4. Don’t give your time away.

One of the best ways to ruin a productive day is to give into distractions. Distractions come from people and situations that want your time. When you veer away from your plan in order to deal with someone else’s urgent problem, you give up control. Becoming a better entrepreneur starts with planning and sticking to that plan. It also involves having the strength to say no. It stings to hurt people’s feelings, but this is your life and business. So, do what’s right for you.

5. Work on one project at a time.

The myth of multi-tasking as a valid strategy has been around as long as entrepreneurship has, but science has proven it’s not effective.. Instead stick to your plan for the day and take each task one at a time. Give your full attention and energy to making what you’re working on the best it can be. You’re not striving for perfection, but you are striving for excellence.

Related: Forget Multitasking. Real Productivity Comes From Singletasking.

6. Respect your work-life boundaries.

As entrepreneurs, we are all about pushing hard to hits our goals, but that’s a surefire way to burn out. Some of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs have clear boundaries. You decide ahead of time when you’ll stop “work” and focus on your personal life. You decide not to take business call all hours of the day and night.

There are more than six things to put on this list, of course, but these are a good start. It takes a lot out of you to be a good entrepreneur. It takes focusing on what’s right for you and your customers. It takes putting in the not-so-exciting daily work that leads to success.

Overall, the main goal of entrepreneurship is to create freedom in your life and make an impact in the lives of those whom your business serves. To do that, you need a plan, focus and constant growth both personally and in your business. Set yourself up for success each day, and strive to get better. These are the 6 Things You Can Do To Become A Better Entrepreneur

Related: 5 Tips for Maintaining Work-Life Balance, From People Who’ve Been There