by: Izobofolo’s Blog


Great leaders, I have a leading to share this piece here believing it will heal our marriages which will facilitate the success of our homes and ministry. Be blessed as you read.

  1. THE AMAZEMENT STAGE: This is the “wow” stage. Lots of new things to discover with your spouse. The newness, the freshness is so amazing. Sleeping on the same bed, wearing the same attire, cooking for him, doing house chores with her, bathing together. Wearing your dazzling wedding wears everywhere, turning people’s head at the newest couple around. Loads and lots of fun. Sexual exploration and excitement. Being in control of your kitchen, feeding him and lots more. It’s the honeymoon stage and it’s so so beautiful.
  2. THE IRRITATION STAGE: This is when you begin to notice weaknesses you have overlooked or blissfully wish they go away but didn’t. The repetition of such weaknesses begins to work on your nerves and you are getting irritated: he snores a lot, she is slow in the kitchen, she belches loudly, he screams unnecessarily, she won’t bathe before coming to bed or shave, he spends many hours watching football and ignores you when you talk. “What’s just wrong with this guy?” You think aloud, well it’s part of marriage.
  3. THE ANGER STAGE: This is when the repetition of such weaknesses gets on your nerves and you display your anger. The introverted partners stuffs it in and either keep malice, avoid you or stubbornly continue with the irritating habit. It’s the stage you begin to wonder: “have I really married the wrong guy?” “Have I married the wrong woman?” No, you did not, you are simply going through a phase together.
  4. THE RESSOLUTION STAGE: When you both begin to face the reality of marriage and acknowledge your partner’s weaknesses. You eventually realize anger and malice does not solve any problem and begins to find ways to deal with your differences, both of you begin to compromise here and there and adjust to each other.
  5. THE ACCEPTANCE STAGE: When it dawned on you that some things are just part of your partner and may never change till end of times. You resigned from anger, abuse and quarrel and choose to accept them, lovingly adjust to them and enjoy them regardless of their weaknesses.
  6. THE RESTUL STAGE:This is the stage you permanently accept them with all their strengths, weaknesses, short comings and flaws and love them unconditionally regardless of what they do. This is real love -agape, divine and true. You reconnect emotionally, spiritually and physically at a deeper level and enjoy honey moon again while building a lasting marriage regardless of the challenges you face.


There is no perfect marriage. Every marriage goes through this stages. How you handle it will determine if you will come out bitter or better.

You don’t have to abuse your spouse or keep malice if you are truly a believer and you obey the word of God daily.

Nevertheless, do not be disappointed if you go through the unpleasant stages in marriage. It is a phase and will surely end.

Handle your marriage with wisdom and keep loving regardless of the challenges you face. That is what will make your marriage a heaven on earth experience…there are different stages in marriage, patience and tolerance is the answer.




By: Victory Izobofolo


Cheating married men who could not care less about what marriage has meant to their fellow women! Have you ever wondered why some married women completely loose it, throw tantrums, troll their husband ‘snatchers’  online, embarrass themselves by physically confronting other women and become possessive of their husbands following cheating episodes? Have you ever wondered why it’s a lone battle to a married woman? 

Apparently, women are more obsessive of marriage than men. Because they invest so much emotional input in it. They dive there with their hands and feet and hang in there as if their breath depends on it. It’s a good thing. Because nature made sure that women are keepers and men are not.

Married women belonging to cheating men are indeed bitter women. To them, cheating is a security breach that risks them into loosing all the time and hard work invested in marriage. Marriage is literally ‘life’ to some women. So what do you expect them to feel when their ‘lives’ are under threat? Bitterness and more bitterness. Nothing breaks a woman down than the thought of loosing her husband to a potential competitor. That’s one of the worst emotional pain in women. While you might want to look at it as a simple harmless moment of fun with another female, your wife will see her life crumbling down. Depression will kick in and disturb her for a long time. Women rarely heal from the pain they experience following infidelity from their husbands. While you might choose to look at it as a ‘harmless arrangement’ between you and her husband to sleep together for money, the wife is usually going through unbearable psychological pain and disorientation thinking of all the selflessness she gave so that the man can make that money he’s paying women with. She gave you kids thinking you will honor her for choosing to mother your kids only to realize that you are having kids with other women and even fathering those from single mothers.


And amidst all her pain, she chooses to stay and blame other women for stealing you. Because the love she has for her husband will blind her to see any faults in him. She will blame other women, men, brothels and the world for breaking her marriage but not her husband. She still wants her husband home. Since her life depends on marriage, as a covenant acknowledged by God. Nature is amazing. 

Let’s think twice about what married women go through and be responsible for our actions before making sexual advances at other women or agreeing to those advances from married men. It’s inhuman to disregard the feelings of another human being just because you want to erect inside another female, or sleep with a married man for his family’s money.



By: Rev. Uche N. Peters –


PLEASE DON’T BE ANGRY WITH ME, I MUST SAY THIS BECAUSE I LOVE YOU AND IT’S EATING UP SO MANY FAMILIES. (Current practical life realities in marriage…no Bible context)

This may shock you but it’s the truth in this race of marriage.

A man may cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him.

That’s why when you’re dating a married man and you mistakenly talk about his wife, at that moment he will be very angry with you, I know so many women are aware of this.

I say this because men do not have sex with emotions, and women can’t have sex without attaching emotions to it, Yeah.

This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.

Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men.

A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless THE MAN EXCEEDINGLY ABUSES HER PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY TO THE POINT OF KILLING HER.

Men don’t equate sex with love.

A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn’t love her.

That’s why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men.

But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrate some hidden secrets concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband).

She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.

For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things.

For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love).

Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.

The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn’t mean he has stopped loving you.

But I can’t say the same for women.

Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again.

And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.

If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years.

It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead.

That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him.

I know the Bible didn’t encourage any man to Divorce his wife for cheating and I will never encourage you too, she can still change.

Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinary criminals or weapons.

There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can’t detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.

That’s why psychologists discourage women, more than men, from cheating.

Like as I’m doing now.

Women can’t handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating.

That’s the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect for their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.

Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands.

Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife’s behavior with regard to sex start changing.

But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerates fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.

Women can’t cheat on their partners with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything.

That’s why you can’t always trust their judgment.

When a joke is cracked, most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny but because they like the person who cracked the joke.

If they don’t like you, no matter how funny your joke may be, they won’t laugh, but when a man laughs at a joke, it’s because the joke is funny, not because he likes the comedian.

Men are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.

Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love.

But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.

I repeat, nearly 95% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can’t wish their wives quick death or divorce.

That is why most men can’t allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends.

Men will always stand for their wives.

A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women.

Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near. May God help us.