HOW TO SET SEXUAL BOUNDARIES

HOW TO SET SEXUAL BOUNDARIES

(For all Christians,  Pastors, Shepherds, Deacons, Deaconesses, Elders, Dep’tal leaders, Music Ministers, Church members)

“I made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I entertain thoughts against a virgin? (Job 31:1, NET BIBLE’)

Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.

The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It’s no news that 4, 5 years old kids now have sex with each other. Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.

One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. The stupid belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen!

A lot will happen! One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or single these end time is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth. The ealier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can’t be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure, set boundaries!

There are some people who can’t be your friends, raise the standard. Any body can call you names, that’s their headache, you have your destiny to protect. As a rule, I don’t make friends with liars, gossips and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can’t be friends, period.

Monitor your chats. Don’t allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!

Limit the hugs and touches. If your hugging anointing is only for me, I want none of it.

Don’t allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends), it doesn’t make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite on, if you don’t know that, know it right now.

Be sensitive to attractions. Don’t be naive around the opposte sex, know when a man/ woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus too much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you, move back.

Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back. It’s perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/ woman get you excited and move back.

Don’t jump at new relationships. Give it time. Study the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!

Leadership attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you.

Accepts gifts with care. Men don’t joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex. Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your standard. Men will respect and honour you for it.

Work on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.

Be prayerful, be watchful. Jesus says “watch and pray that ye may not fall into temptation…”

Don’t stay with the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.

Don’t counsel the opposite sex on a bed in a lonely room.

Avoid provocative dresses and pictures. Let your spouse or parents advise you on what is okay for you.

Mind the pictures you post on the social media, if it is getting unecessary opposite sex attention, delete it.

Don’t visit the opposite sex alone, especially at night. It doesn’t make sense.

These and more are the things you need to do to stay sexually pure in this 21st century.

People may laugh at you, it doesn’t matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don’t give a damn! Your destiny is too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of holiness and make friends with people who appreciate purity and holiness.

Finally, avoid the second look, as far possible. I agree perfectly with Job on his resolution never to look lustfully at any lady. Yes, you can avoid the second look. Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your holiness.

Stay blessed

Republished by Izobofolo’s Blog

Win Court Case For War or Accept Result For Peace – Says Sutan of Sokoto

Win Court Case For War or Accept Result For Peace – Says Sutan of Sokoto

“If you go to court you will win but there will be war and Nigerians will be massacred. Please accept the results as the will of God”- Sultan of Sokoto to Atiku Abubakar.

The words above have been attributed to the Sutan of Sokoto and understandably they have caused quite a stir. He has not refuted them and consequently I assume that they are his words. If he really said them, my response is as follows.

I have immense respect for the Sultan of Sokoto and those he represents but I am constrained by the Living God to ask the following questions.

Who is afraid of war? Are we not at war already? Why didn’t the author of these words tell Buhari not to go to court after he lost in 2003, 2007 and 2011?

The election was rigged and under Buhari, over the last three years and nine months, innocent and defenceless people have been slaughtered all over the north whilst the south has been castrated, cheated, enslaved and robbed of its future and destiny. All this yet you are saying that we should just accept it in order to avoid being massacred and in order to avoid war?

When our brothers and sisters in the Lord are being slaughtered and murdered in cold blood what more do we have to lose? Are we not already at war? Have we not been robbed of our rights, freedom, dignity and heritage already? Have we not been reduced to nothing and rendered powerless? What more do we have to lose?

Our votes don’t count! Our protestations don’t count! Our lamentations don’t count! Our tears don’t count! Our sorrow doesn’t count! Our pain doesn’t count! Our suffering doesn’t count! Our humiliation doesn’t count!

Nothing counts or speaks for us anymore!

You have stripped us bare and taken everything from us. Yet you expect us to just sit there and take it and threaten us with war when we wish to insist on our lawful and constitutional rights?

This is not about Atiku. It is about those he represents and those that have put their trust in him and given him a mandate! He is their only hope. And woe betide him if he betrays that mandate or their trust! If MKO Abiola could stand for what was right up until the end and insist on his mandate, even though it cost him everything, so must Atiku Abubakar.

If some believe that the only way they can preserve the peace is by threatening the rest of us with war, lauding it over us and turning us into quislings, appendages and cowardly sub-humans then damn their peace and let them keep it.

Nobody wants war except those sadists that take pleasure in massacaring others at the drop of a hat in the name of faith or tribe. Nobody wants war except those that seek to strip and deny others of their rights and dignity and turn them into slaves.

Wars are fought in order to protect those rights and to ensure justice, fairplay, equity and freedom. They are fought in order to resist evil. If that is what we have to do in order to restore, redeem and defend the lives, pride, dignity and liberty of our people then so be it.

We shall not look for war or provoke it because it is a terrible thing that no sane person would desire or pray for. However if it is thrust upon us by the delusional, bloodthirsty and misguided elements in our midst and that hold sway in our nation we shall not kneel down passively and beg them or run away from it.

This country belongs to us all. We shall never accept subjugation, slavery and servitude as being our portion. We would rather die first. And neither can we be intimidated by any empty boasts or threats of massacre and war.

Men and sex – God’s Creation 

Men and sex – God’s Creation

Women find it hard to understand men and sex. Please women understand these following hidden facts;

In most cases when men want to help you, they want sex. When they say they love you, they want sex. When they mistakenly sleep over in your house, they want sex. When they want to borrow you money, they want sex. When they want to give you a job, they want sex. When they want to pass you, they want sex.

First of all, you need to understand that God created men with this high libido, it is not their fault. Although, some have relatively low libido, but science said we are polygamist. It is only self control and discipline that makes some men hide their desires or forgo the option of getting what nature calls for.

We didn’t ask for this, we didn’t create ourselves. Do you know that 95% of healthy men wake up with an erection every morning? A mother fucking boner! Did we bargain for it? No!

Do you know that the manhood responds guickly to stimuli from thought conception. You can be reading your bible and you may get aroused depending on the parts you are reading and the happenings of your environment.

A man can be sleeping, once the female gender stimulate arousa, his manhood responds to nature even when the man is asleep, it is not a sin, it is natural.

However,  have you asked yourself why men are never on any periods, cramps or bad moods? It is because God did not create them that way.

Let me wow you more! A man is naturally always ready for sex! Rub a man on his head, he his already thinking you may want sex. Wink at him, he’s already seeing you naked in your cloths. Wave at a him walking with his wife, he may lose focus.

Folks! You can not overcome unholy sex urge in Jesus name or Holy Ghost fire, that’s why most churches don’t allow ladies with short dresses to sit in front, because they may arouse the pastors. Again, Its not by anointing or “Sheri ma ma ma.”

Men, if you want self control, then be used to deliberately denying yourself sex anytime nature calls for it during unholy arousa. Yes, we did not create the high libido ourselves, but God has given us brains to give him rest…just apply self control and FLEE when excessalary.

The only man that over came sex according to the good books was Jesus Christ himself and Joseph. Joseph won is temptation by not just runing away, but he fled. He would have stayed and bind the temptation of the seduction. For Jesus, he was God and when selecting his disciples, he was very careful not to have included a woman among his disciples, or else, it would have been the woman that could have betrayed him, not Judas.

Folks! Many great men have fallen because of sex. Do you think they wanted to? No, it was because they could not control their desires.

Again, do you know that even soldiers in war front still develop urge for sex? this is to show you how bad the urge can be. So many soldiers were killed during the Biafran war because a woman lured them Inside the bush for sex.

David in the bible sent a woman’s husband to the war front for him to die so he can have sex with the wife. Do i need to tell you about Samson, Solomon, king James and other bible characters? It can only take the grace of God, self control and some level of maturity to control unholy sex urge.

Women, the way our body react to sex is not the same for you. So, play your part to keep your man. If you are unmarried, please wait for your time or apply self control (use protection). How many great women have you heard messed up because of dick? Maybe few, I guess. So, next time a man ‘misbehaves’ because of sex, don’t see him as a beast or an animal. We are just responding to nature.

Do not say to us; “i have lost the respect i have for you, i thought you were responsible, so this is what you wanted…sex…what a shame!

Let me shock you, even your 75 years hold father can lost his money and integrity to a 17 year old girl, if badly aroused.

I pray you read this post with realistic understanding and apply wisdom when dealing with men.

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The Campaign For Nigeria’s Unity Is An Unforgivable Crime

Written by a concerned Yoruba man:

The Campaign For Nigeria’s Unity Is An Unforgivable Crime

Now we are so “thoughtful” to insult ourselves by giving false credit to Northerners.

We cloak them with a fake political abilities over and above us in Yorubaland. We state as a matter of factly that Northerners are sophisticated and advanced. We do this to put ourselves down. We abuse ourselves as being lacking in common sense.

Yet the video illustrates the way of life of Northerners. They are adept at profiting blatantly from crimes and criminality, that no set of human beings that wish to develop should habour.

Since the era of Jubril Aminu for over 30 years running, the North has been rigging in all examinations. We have been quiet in foolishness.

With 10% marks, a Sokoto child openly rigs out an Osun State child with 70% marks going to Unity Schools.

With 110 marks in JAMB, a Borno State boy gets into read Law at University, but an Oyo State girl with 270 is made to sit at home. But eventually, graduates from Bayero University and those from UNILAG will end up at the law school. Eventually, they will compete for SAN rank. Pray what is the antecedent of Abubakar Malami SAN for to sit over all other southern lawyers in Nigeria?

All quota and examination rigging intakes over the last 30 years are now “Professors.” These quota Professors mainly out of ABU now preside over every educational body in Nigeria – NUC, NBTE, NCCE, all Directorates at the Federal Ministry of Education. Even now at INEC.

Southern Professors that went in with superlative WAEC results are now under the feet of their quota facilitated counterparts.

Yet we abuse Yoruba youths of being foolish. Northern Elders provide cheating cover for their own, but Southern Elders live with the illusion of merit. Yet we insult ourselves for the being expectant for merit in our national life.

Northern Elders rig their populations and use it to suck out revenue from the South. Apapa port generates ₦2Trillion yearly. TETFUND money is 95% from the South

But all the money is spread like manure all over the North.

Northerners pretend to abhor alcohol, but VAT realised from massive Southern-based Breweries are shared to emirates from Gusau to Gwandu.

So the North openly cheats with impunity, but we still praise them for being politically sophisticated. We abuse ourselves and derogate our own people.

How foolish we are?

On elections, the North ignores INEC Card Readers. Zamfara and Borno never used Card Readers. Nassarawa and Kano did not use Card Readers. But moon-slide votes were announced will impunity. An illegal act. But we gloss over the patent fraud.

Ever wonder why it was the Almajiris that came out to celebrate and even kill themselves as Buhari was announced winner? The dregs of the earth celebrated Buhari. I saw it here at Abuja.

Buhari lost virtually in every community that comprise a body of educated people. So in a contest of ideas about right and wrong in this hapless country, the Almajirs have been declared winners over the educated.

We sank so low and even go below ground in or the quest for self depreciation and self immolation.

The mighty has fallen indeed. We are disgraced by the thought of our mind and the words we speak in foolishness.

Sadly, we now with glee cloak the North and Northern peoples as being sophisticated, while we regard ourselves as being stupid and foolish.

Solution?

Should we behave like the North? Should we also begin to openly cheat in Examinations? Should we begin to boost our population figures to match the North. We can also institute strategies to computerise our own rigging mechanism.

Should we not turn the 51 campuses of the Universities in Yorubaland into Vote rigging centres? Should we not being the education of our youths in the art and science of political rigging and falsification?

Can’t Osun State as a matter of factly declare a voting figure of 15 million?* Over voting is over voting. Noises would be made across Nigeria. It will be condemned by Northerners. It would be tagged impossible, just as the desert in Nigeria has been legitimised as having more people than forested areas. Nothing will spoilt?

Nothing will spoilt also if Osun State is declared to have an inflated voting population, while other States in the South are sensitised to follow suit.

Let’s with bold face take Nigeria population to the lever of 600 million by 2023. Lie is a lie in a Nigeria that is based on lies.

This is the choice before us. It could be done. We should match the North, figure for figure and rigging for rigging.

Let us begin to rig with computers across Southern States, as our morality is out of place in Nigeria.

The Elites And The Masses Are Nigerians Problem; Not Tribalism

By: Sanusi Lamido Sanusi HRM


The Elites And The Masses Are Nigerians Problem; Not Tribalism

Tribalism is not our problem. Tribalism and religion are artificial problems created by selfish leaders for their own personal interest.

There are only two major tribes in Nigeria. The Elites and the Masses. Once you make lots of money, you belong to the elite tribe. When you are a commoner or suffering, you belong to the tribe of the masses. If you are an elite, and you need more power, or elective position, you sow seeds of tribalism and religion among the masses, so as to sway their emotion for your personal victory. This happens at both the national and state level. Unfortunately, after the election when they have won and joined their “sworn enemies” to drink and party, the gullible masses continue to fight each other.

Even smart people who belong to the masses, sometimes will sow seeds of tribalism and religion among the masses, and then the masses will carry them up until they belong to the elite class.  It is a classic strategy used over 3000 years ago in the art of war. A commoner who aspires to sit with the elites, could stir up powerful tribal or religious sentiments, such wave if properly utilized either by shedding blood or destabilizing the elites, carries the commoner to the elite class. But once there, he immediately mingles and makes peace with the elite tribe, and turn his back on the same masses that helped him get there.

Youths are the worst victim of this powerplay, they kill each other, call other tribes unprintable names, do terrible things and sometimes, even lose their life, thinking they are fighting for their right, not knowing that they are fighting for the personal welfare of someone, whose own children are probably safe in America or London.

So youths, don’t hope on the government. If you don’t have a job, create one. There is abject poverty in the south as well as the north, whether Ogoni or Maidugri. At the same time, there is massive wealth in Lagos, Onitsha, Nnewi, Aba, Kano, Abuja, irrespective of zone.

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it well and never remain idle. No job is too low for an idle hand, or else the devil will find work for you. As you become independent, and grow your capacity, do not lose hope in Nigeria. We are the largest economy in Africa and soon the world will fear us. Western powers, don’t like big economies that threaten them, America will do anything to break China, but China is wise to resist that. China has 1.6 billion people, we have only 170 million, and we are talking of breaking.

China has 5 major religions which are Buddhism, Confucianism, Taoism, Islam and Christianity. Nigeria has only 2 major religions, Christianity and Islam. Yet we claim that religion is our problem.

America, the strongest economy is comprised of every tribe in the world, since they accept anybody from any part of the world. Yet they are united and extremely patriotic. Nigeria has only 3 major tribes, and we claim tribalism.

Think clearly and deeply, and you will realize that empowering yourself is the best course of action, not fighting each other. And once the youths are empowered, they can begin to take back their future from the hands of the old and corrupt generation that has been blinding Nigerians with hatred, while looting all her resources. Sani Abacha’s loot is still stashed away in Switzerland, did he use it to develop the north? Those that stole billions under GEJ stashed it away in foreign banks, bought expensive toys, jets and foreign homes, are they using it to develop the south? Now the ones stealing currently, including the “grasscutters”, are looking for Ikoyi apartments, abandoned houses, and pit toilets to hide it, are they using it for the youths in their tribe? NO!

Youths shine your eyes ! Don’t always fall for this tribal, religious sentiments over and over again. Nigeria is bigger than these corrupt elites. They are the problem, not the poor Masses