Dr. Charles Awuzie
HOW TO CUT OFF DRAINING EMOTIONAL TIES IN RELATIONSHIPS – When Are You Going To Cut Those Draining Emotional ties?
The relationship went from wow to sour, and what used to be a fun filled friendship has now become a thorn in your flesh. A part of you tells you to let them go but another deeper side of you still wants to hold on for another moment. Memories of great times you spent together seem to make you forget the other times they let you down. You struggle between letting go and holding on. Your life is at a standstill. Your career is affected. Tears become common. And worse still, you have nobody to talk to because you left everyone just to be with them.
If you are at this point, it is time to cut that negative emotional attachment and set your soul free. This freedom, like other freedoms, might be painful but it is GAINFUL at the end.
An American therapist listed the following as signs that you may be suffering from Toxic Emotional Ties:
1) Being tempted to get back with them even though the relationship was toxic.
2) Having troubles sleeping because of your constant processing of the past.
3) A desire for revenge, or thinking that you are constantly being treated unfairly.
4) Inability to cease obsessing and thinking about that person.
5) Remembering often their words, their judgment, and criticism towards you.
6) Getting emotional over past memories – i.e. we used to eat at this restaurant.
7) Stalking them on social media.
8.) Deep feelings of anger, sadness, and abandonment.
9) Being an emotional wreck and crying a lot.
If you find yourself showing some or all of the signs above, then this article is for you. It is time to literally BURN the past. Yes, consume the past in a literal fire 🔥. Don’t worry, I will help you do it.
Are you ready? 🤔
Pack a matchbox and a notebook 📔 and go to a quite lonely place.
On different pages, write down the names of the people in your past who still have a NEGATIVE hold on your emotions.
Tear out the pages and yell out those names individually. Then loudly say “(mention name) You are no longer in my life and therefore has no right to control my thoughts and emotions. Today I burn 🔥 every memory I had with you. I consider such memories dead and buried.” Then the burn the page 📄 and do same to all the names in your head.
Step on the ashes and spit on them. If you have the contacts of those people, write them and tell them that you just moved on. Tell them that they have lost their grip on your mind. Wish them well and say Goodbye.
Now you have power over your past and your past no longer have power over you. You are in charge. You have regained control of your mind. This is freedom. You are revived and restored to your original self.
It’s time to go back home. You are going back to a new season. Remember those great projects you always wanted to accomplish, now is the time to start working on them again. Get remarried to your dreams. The first enemy of your future is your past. The burning of your past is the birth of the future.
The only way to win the battle over emotional ties is to literally cut them. Burn the bridge. Emphasis on the word BURN 🔥.
Research shows that humans are more likely to get over something when they see it in ashes than when they think it still exists somewhere. It’s time to wake up to the reality that your past relationships are actually in ashes and doesn’t exist anywhere – not even in your Ex-partner’s mind. It’s time to let go of the people who let go of you.
Burn the memories to ashes. Cut that cord. Regain your heart.
My name is Charles Awuzie and I am your partner in this journey.