Dr Chinomso Jude Nwala


Her water broke…

Ella was rolled into the theatre with her husband running behind the nurses, soaked in sweat and splatters of the broken water on his trouser. I’m sorry sir you can’t come in, her blood pressure is up and she’s almost having a panic attack, she’s gone into labour already.

“No, there’s no way! I have to be there!!!”

“We’re sorry Sir!” they refused him entering.

Sweat broke out across his face and it looked like he was the one with the panic

attack. He loved her and would give anything to take her place in that labour

room, but of course, that couldn’t happen.

Ella couldn’t take a minute more of the pain but she had insisted on pushing all the way. She was a nurse and had helped deliver countless kids. But this was even more painful than she expected. With her legs spread out and head hurting so badly she thought she’d faint, Ella blasted into

wild tears.

“I can’t do it doc, I can’t!”

“Ma’am you have to push.” The head is already out and this baby will die if you don’t!” The doctor’s voice getting more intense and sharp.

Ella began to cry again, she had dreamt many nights about this baby, her girl, her first baby after five miscarriages.

“Doc, I’m so tired, please, I’m getting really weak”

“Get her husband in here right now!” the doctor instructed…

They didn’t need to call his name a second time before Raymond came in rushing to her


“Baby, I’m here”

“It’s too painful!”

“I know my love, and I would give anything to do this for you, but I can’t” He began

sobbing as she screamed releasing a measure of the pain on his hands, he could

bet blood wasn’t flowing in them at that moment.


“Baby, listen to me. For every child we lost,



“For all the years that went by, baby push!”


“For everyone that laughed at you, push!!!”


“For the joy of having your own child, baby



“for everyone that mocked you and said you can’t mother a child, baby push!!!!!!!!”


And for the first time for Ella, she heard a cry that made her smile, it was the cry of a baby born. Her very own!

You may be young, but you’re not young at all. You may have tried one thing or the other, or you may not even have a clue where to start. But there’s a hand

holding you right now. Saying, you’ve wasted enough time wondering if you’re good enough, being afraid of the possibility

of failure, its time to PUSH. You’ve probably been a great part of someone else’s dream,you’ve helped birth other visions, that’s

fantastic, but at the end of the journey, you stand alone on the finish line.

So this is for you:

For everyone that talked you down, PUSH!
For all the times your name was forgotten, PUSH!
For the family that said they won’t support you, PUSH!
For that friend that betrayed you, PUSH.
For the mistakes that try to hunt you, PUSH!
For every time you tried and failed, PUSH!

For the times people mocked you, PUSH!!!

I don’t promise that there’ll be no pain, as a matter of fact, I guarantee that you would have to cry sometimes, other times, you

would want to give up, and it will look like every bone in your body is breaking into

pieces, but for that dream in your heart, that change you want to make, that future you saw, IT’S TIME TO PUSH!

People can love you, encourage you, and

motivate you, but when it comes down to the time to push, it is you and your creator’s inspiration. Don’t fail your GOD…. PUSH!!!!

*Don’t quit, don’t let past failures & disappointments prevent you from taking a hold of good opportunities. Keep pushing, Just push and push until something happens. You will laugh at last…



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  1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

  2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

  3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

  4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

  5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

  6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

  7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

  8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

  9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

  10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

  11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

  12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

  13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

  14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

  15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

  16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

  17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

  18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

  19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

  20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

  21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

  22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

  23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.



By: Andy Akporugo Jr


There was a time in Nigeria when watching football on television was a home sport; when men pursued work elsewhere but lived life at home. It was a time at which fathers struggled for siesta under the same roof and at the same time that their wards did their homework with looks plaintiff for assistance. A time when visiting friends engaged fathers in robust debates at home on diverse matters, to the kindness of excited kitchens and fridges that yielded their content to the fancy of preferences or the limitation of pockets!

It was a time that fathers expressed their vanities under the measure of the realization that their footsteps were being witnessed by their children, even if only in pretentious glances or upon toddling unannounced steps unto their presence. It was a time when we learnt culture, history, politics, well behavior, good sense and pride from the quiet, deliberate observation of our fathers as we stood by to run errands. A time when children were not necessarily shaped by some organized dispensation by which they were made to sit, pen and paper in hand, and listen to the conscious impartation of the responsibility of fatherhood, but were mentored by the frequent stumbling on parents minding their business within view. It was a time when fathers ensured through repetition and action that mothers knew that someone outside them, was insisting that they had the final authority in the home, the final responsibility for the development of the child. It was a time when living rooms offered more comfort and aesthetic arrogance than the beer parlous down the road.

Then came now, and with it a litany of well-appointed bars dotted with all forms of seductions and introducing new menus. Silky football is now served with ice-cold beer and pepper soup, along with the welcome distraction of solicitous heels. Young fathers who love to undo their ties before getting home, have also introduced noisy business networking into sundry cocktails in a manner that makes one staggering out of a pub feel as vindicated as any businessman sauntering out of successful meeting at a board room. Lines are now blurred and logic has become too tired to interrogate itself. And so there is great entertainment in arguing noisily while watching football on television, with bewildered screens silently witnessing a boisterousness that only makes them the excuse rather than reason for gathering.

In this and similar settings which by their content, exclude the children and family, more adult and even foreign friendships are struck which for the reason of not being sourced from an ambience of family, would grow very well outside the nourishment of their participation. And so at end, we work far from home and relax even farther; away from the accidental observation of our children to whom we owe grooming, even if we leave for a moment the very dangerous likelihood of creating perhaps by default, separate even conflicting tribes of loved ones – a family which does not know our friends and friends who likely hold no mattering for our family.

In the retiring week, I have been forced to live at home by the demands of a stomach that refuses to hold anything, and I am witnessing life, the life of my own family being lived to its full in a manner that seems to make my contribution now and again, appear only as an interruption. And I am realizing that, after all pretenses to providing adequate grooming by the sheer haste by which my pocket flattens, I have truly been largely by-standing on living itself. I am wondering how much of my daughter’s knowledge and character I can claim to have been obtained from emulating me, whether by means of organized tutoring or fortuitous grooming by the sheer power of my presence at home. And I am deciding that I shall not be satisfied by being a beautiful tale to her anymore. I shall be an experience, as indeed was my father before me. Simply, ‘‘I am taking it back’’.

And why not! I have just had my own Town Hall meeting.

Women’s Misconception About Weddings And Marriage

BREADTH of MIND (Consistency) Part 1

By: Gift Tarupiwa

BREADTH of MIND (Consistency) Part 1

At the point of understanding time’s pivotal role in the incubation period of every egg of effort, one can give time the responsibility to produce the anticipated outcome.

Now to help someone easily comprehend this, am going to use an illustration which I believe everyone out there will quickly grasp it’s relevant significance.

As i was urgently in need of some boiling water this other day, I placed a pot with cold water on one of the plates of an electric stove and turned it on to it’s maximum heating point.

Since i could hardly wait for it to boil, i decided to just stand by the stove keeping an eye on the proceedings.

Well before I knew it, I began to hear a faint hissing sound coming from the pot, which was later joined by a few bubbles emerging on the inner surface of the pot.

In the quest for checking the water’s temperature I placed my hands on the outer walls of the pot and felt some change, it was a bit warm now!

Since this was on a cold winter morning, i couldn’t remove my hands there as i had found a source of some greatly appreciated heat.

At this point in time, the hissing sound faded out as the bubbles grew bigger and began to continuously rise up slowly to the top.

Before I knew it, the temperature of the pot’s wall had rapidly increased, forcing me to take my hands off.

This juncture saw a hot steam emerging from the water and in no time it finally reached it’s boiling point.

Now this experience brought me to the understanding of the significance of consistency in the working out of any life goal.

In as much as heat was the major participant in the process of boiling the water, there also had to be a consistent and constant contact between the hot plate and the pot’s bottom surface for the heat to affect the water’s temperature.

Whenever efforts towards the accomplishment of certain things are made consistently, positive results are inevitably evident.

Great achievements are just but a collection of small efforts made over a period of time with consistency.

Since patience is of an essential vitality in one’s journey to their ultimate destiny, it takes a greater breadth of mind to be able to take advantage of the power of consistency and patiently work and wait for the expected results.

When an egg is hatched, it will be carrying some substance of a potential hatchling yet if it won’t be incubated either naturally or artificially thus consistently staying under some warm temperatures for an appropriate time , the hatchling will never become substantial or materialise.

BREADTH of MIND (Consistency)

#CONSISTENCY is the only dependable #RESISTANCE to failure.

Well guess you’ve found this writing so enlightening and educational….

Good day!

BREADTH of MIND (Perception) part 2


RIGHT DECISION FUELS DESIRE TO DESTINATION – 8 Rules for Making the Right Decisions

Never underestimate the impact a single decision can have: one wrong move can ruin a relationship, a career, a life, etc. We must choose wisely to generate joy in our lives. But when the road forks, confusion suddenly sets in. It’s normal to feel bewildered when different options present different pros and cons. As we advance down the path of life, sudden shifts require our attention and quick thinking: Should I give this person another chance? Should I take this job opportunity? Should I invest in a new home? And under the pressure of making the correct choice, all or none of our choices may even seem right. Where, then, do we turn for guidance?

Apply these eight rules when weighing your options to ensure that your decisions always play out in your favor:

  1. Pay attention to signs. The first rule asks us to open up to obvious signs. The universe tries to offer guiding signals that we often miss or neglect if we’re not tuned in. Anything can be a sign: your late mother’s name on a truck, a person you were just thinking about calling you, receiving an offer when you need it most, etc. When you do recognize something as a sign, don’t dismiss it. Reflect on the potential message being delivered to you.
  2. Take your own advice. If you can’t take your own advice, you’ve learned it in vain. Our lifelong experiences should fortify our wisdom and clarify our choices. If 5 or 10 years ago you knew what you know now, what would you have done differently? Allow former events to dictate present decisions: What did a bad decision from a similar situation in the past teach you? If you take the same actions now, the same results will repeat. What would you advise someone else to do if they shared an issue identical to yours? Take a sip from your own fountain of knowledge and take your own advice.
  3. Keep clean your conscience. No decision should stain your spirit. Do your best to act for the good of everyone, not just for your own good. Decisions that hurt others and only benefit you will eventually turn against you. When in doubt, consult your moral code. Keep your conscience clean by making clean choices.
  4. Detach from negative emotions. Nothing keeps us stagnant like our own fear, impatience, and frustration. Moving forward with the right choices means we must eliminate these emotions. If we weren’t afraid of anything, we would act with incredible courage. If we weren’t so impatient, we would wait until the right opportunities rolled around. And if we didn’t become so easily frustrated, we would extend our perception. Understand that these feelings are impediments to the progress of your life and that when you eradicate them, your decisions no longer stem from your ego but from your highest self. Always remember this rule of thumb: never make a decision under desperation.
  5. Know your influences. We often turn to our friends for guidance when we’re confused. Why do we do this, when the right answers are all within us? When we recognize who influences us, we can discern whether their advice is causing positive or negative effects. So ask yourself: To whom am I listening, instead of listening to myself? Remember that people are naturally biased and flawed because they’re dealing with their own dilemmas. Anyone can offer you their take on what’s right but no one can offer you what’s right for you—only you can do that for yourself. Better to go within and find the solutions there.
  6. Follow your intuition. In the words of Swiss writer Johann Kaspar Lavater, “Intuition is the clear conception of the whole at once.” Our intuition puts into perspective the entirety of a situation: it takes us beyond one moment in time and reveals how things will unfold in the future. The truth is that we already know exactly what we must do and what will happen, if only we follow our internal GPS. Intuition is what feels right inside, and it isn’t just some “gut feeling;” our instincts can reshape our lives. Following our intuition helps us realize that we have the power to make the right decisions. Engage your sixth sense for a heightened perception of what to do and what to avoid. Make one decision based on your intuition. Allow yourself to be instructed by your inner voice. Note the difference in results when you over analyze versus when you intuit your way down the right path.
  7. Don’t cross red flags. Just as much as the universe offers signs, it also puts up red flags. For example, if unexplained “coincidences” are stopping you from doing something, reconsider your decision. A few years ago I wanted to work with an agent who ended up being bad news. I mailed her a check, which the post office lost. I mailed the agent another check and it got lost again! The red flags had been erected, but I barreled past them. I stubbornly sent her a third check, and unfortunately, she received that one. Soon, I came to understand why I shouldn’t have crossed the red flags. You might experience a similar example of the universe blocking something from occurring. Instead of becoming stubborn and pushing for it to happen, take a step back and reflect: Am I being saved from something bad here? This same principle holds true under all circumstances, including relationships. As much as you like someone you’ve just met, you must heed the warning signs: are they prone to lying or cheating based on their past relationships? Do they treat others poorly? Are they egocentric? You must distinguish your need to be with a partner from your need to be with this partner so as not to proceed beyond a clear boundary of red flags.
  8. Organize your thoughts Positive thoughts turn on the “possibility” switch: when we think something good can happen, we take the right actions to ensure it comes true. If we decide it’s time to meet a new partner, we may take more time getting ready in the morning, excited to look great for a potential suitor. We may take better care of ourselves, become more outgoing, and even begin a conversation with someone attractive. Introduce new prospect into your life. Write out a situation for which you must make a decision soon. Put into words the entirety of your thoughts—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Then, jot down your choices and their potential outcomes. Project what would happen if you did one thing versus if you did another. Circle the choice that you believe will lead to your highest good. Organized thoughts lead to wise decisions.

The pressure of making the right decisions can be overwhelming, but acting on these principles, our choices become infallible and our lives more rewarding.

To your best decisions,
Dr. Carmen Harra

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