By: Dr. U.Mick


Listen guys, i wish someone had told you this before now, let me quickly show you what it means to be unequally yoked with unbelievers as it concerns relationships, I think you should learn this perspective:

If only you knew how much time you have wasted searching for a God-fearing partner. If only you knew how many potential life partners you have missed because you’re too busy looking for a good Christian Jesus loving God-fearing partner.

Listen guys, God-fearing is not a quality people posess, it is WHO THEY ARE, it is a NATURE people carry, a lot of us do this, we write all kinds of things we are looking for in a life partner; must be God-fearing, must be spiritual, does not smoke/drink, a faithful tither, passion for Kingdom things etc.

Naaa, these things are not necessary because God fearing is not a quality but a nature, you cannot carry the nature of God and still be a drunk, you cannot carry the nature of God and not be a kingdom addict and a God chaser. So what am looking for is a “COMPATIBLE” partner in a group of “God-fearing men”! Not God fearing partner among “incompatible men” That is the big difference.

A lot of us make the mistake of believing that just because a person is saved and single it means we are equally yoked, no we aren’t. Just because a person is born again don’t mean that the yoke is equal, no it isn’t…

You can be equally yoked in quoting scriptures of the Bible, you can be equally yoked in attending church services every Sunday, sitting at the front row, you can be equally yoked in participating actively as leaders in your departments at church, you can be equally yoked in desiring the things of God, just like the scripture puts it, been saved gives us the privilege of being a member of the body of Christ.


Are you equally yoked in character? Are you equally yoked in forgiving a hurt? Are you equally yoked in forgetting past deeds? Are you equally yoked in getting a job to support each other financially? Are you equally yoked in allowing the issues of the family stay in the family? Are you equally yoked in placing each other’s needs first before your own needs?

There is a lot to the understanding of that scripture, especially when it comes to the area of dating and marriage. People try to run away from yoking with unbelievers, only to turn around and enter into an unequal yoke with a believer. *They might be GOOD for you, but that doesn’t make them RIGHT for you.

Two believers will struggle if they have different  perspectives about Marriage. Two believers will struggle if they obey different doctrines or principles of a Godly relationship, and this is where some of us slightly miss the concept of yoking,  we must first be equally yoked in Christ through faith, and then be equally yoked with each other through character/COMPATIBILITY.

So stop looking for a God-fearing partner, go to the Den of God-fearing people and find the one that is SUITABLE for you, that’s the secret. Hope someone catch this Rhema?

Dr. U.Mick




To maintain a healthy vagina you must know what to do to avoid infection and it is equally important to educate your sexual partner on some of them to also help you help the vagina.

Here are some few things you can do or avoid.

  1. Fingering

During foreplay or romance, as part of it some people insert their finger or fingers into the vagina. The question is, how many people wash their hands before sexual intercourse? Some people do not even keep their nails clean so it gathers a lot of germs and during the fingering, these germs are deposited in the vagina…leading to infection. Same thing apply to autopleasure acts or masturbation.

  1. Anal sex

I am not here to tell anybody to have anal sex or not to but I simply want to draw the attention of those who engage in anal sex with the opposite sex that it is dangerous to have anal sex and continue having penovaginal sex. If this is done, the penis will pick bacteria from the anus and deliver them to the vagina even if you are using a condom….which will lead to infection.


  1. Douching

Some parents, when bathing for their baby girls put warm water in a milk tin or dip a towel in the warm water and pour the water through a hole made beneath the tin or squeeze the water out of the towel into the vagina of the baby. This is sooooo WRONG as it can damage the hymen.

Some parents also insert ginger or pepper or both into the vagina of adolescents as a form of punishment. This is sooooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

Some people are use to bathing by adding dettol or other detergents to the water and they put this solution inside the vagina with the help of sponge or towel or just the hand with soap to clean the vagina. This is soooo WRONG as it will change the normal flora in the vagina, leading to infection.

  1. Use of water closet

Some people have the habit of not sitting on the seat of the WC when using it so they end up urinating on the seat. The possibility of picking infection when using it in that condition is high. Don’t let your pant be at the thigh level when using the WC especially the public ones as the inner of the pant may rub the surface of the WC.

Where the water is not running and people have used but have not flushed and you don’t have any choice but to also use it, use enough toilet roll to cover before using the WC to avoid any splashes on the vulva.

  1. Washing and drying

Develop the habit of disinfecting your panties frequently…depending on the number of pants you have. Keep exclusive panties to wear whenever you are menstruating and don’t mix those panties with your regular panties. Pay particular attention to those panties when washing. Ensure that the panties are made of cotton and are dried in the sun or well ironed to kill germs.

  1. Change sanitary pads

Some people try to economize the use of their sanitary pads so during the period they tend to still wear the pad because there is little or no blood. This is soooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

NB: If there is any bad scent from the vagina or there is a discharge coming from the vagina then it might be an infection which you have to have it treated.

📲Help save the vagina by ensuring that you get the message to as many friends as possible. Help save the vagina by getting the message to your sexual partner or sisters.

Republished: by Izobofolo’s Blog


Men and sex – God’s Creation 

Men and sex – God’s Creation

Women find it hard to understand men and sex. Please women understand these following hidden facts;

In most cases when men want to help you, they want sex. When they say they love you, they want sex. When they mistakenly sleep over in your house, they want sex. When they want to borrow you money, they want sex. When they want to give you a job, they want sex. When they want to pass you, they want sex.

First of all, you need to understand that God created men with this high libido, it is not their fault. Although, some have relatively low libido, but science said we are polygamist. It is only self control and discipline that makes some men hide their desires or forgo the option of getting what nature calls for.

We didn’t ask for this, we didn’t create ourselves. Do you know that 95% of healthy men wake up with an erection every morning? A mother fucking boner! Did we bargain for it? No!

Do you know that the manhood responds guickly to stimuli from thought conception. You can be reading your bible and you may get aroused depending on the parts you are reading and the happenings of your environment.

A man can be sleeping, once the female gender stimulate arousa, his manhood responds to nature even when the man is asleep, it is not a sin, it is natural.

However,  have you asked yourself why men are never on any periods, cramps or bad moods? It is because God did not create them that way.

Let me wow you more! A man is naturally always ready for sex! Rub a man on his head, he his already thinking you may want sex. Wink at him, he’s already seeing you naked in your cloths. Wave at a him walking with his wife, he may lose focus.

Folks! You can not overcome unholy sex urge in Jesus name or Holy Ghost fire, that’s why most churches don’t allow ladies with short dresses to sit in front, because they may arouse the pastors. Again, Its not by anointing or “Sheri ma ma ma.”

Men, if you want self control, then be used to deliberately denying yourself sex anytime nature calls for it during unholy arousa. Yes, we did not create the high libido ourselves, but God has given us brains to give him rest…just apply self control and FLEE when excessalary.

The only man that over came sex according to the good books was Jesus Christ himself and Joseph. Joseph won is temptation by not just runing away, but he fled. He would have stayed and bind the temptation of the seduction. For Jesus, he was God and when selecting his disciples, he was very careful not to have included a woman among his disciples, or else, it would have been the woman that could have betrayed him, not Judas.

Folks! Many great men have fallen because of sex. Do you think they wanted to? No, it was because they could not control their desires.

Again, do you know that even soldiers in war front still develop urge for sex? this is to show you how bad the urge can be. So many soldiers were killed during the Biafran war because a woman lured them Inside the bush for sex.

David in the bible sent a woman’s husband to the war front for him to die so he can have sex with the wife. Do i need to tell you about Samson, Solomon, king James and other bible characters? It can only take the grace of God, self control and some level of maturity to control unholy sex urge.

Women, the way our body react to sex is not the same for you. So, play your part to keep your man. If you are unmarried, please wait for your time or apply self control (use protection). How many great women have you heard messed up because of dick? Maybe few, I guess. So, next time a man ‘misbehaves’ because of sex, don’t see him as a beast or an animal. We are just responding to nature.

Do not say to us; “i have lost the respect i have for you, i thought you were responsible, so this is what you wanted…sex…what a shame!

Let me shock you, even your 75 years hold father can lost his money and integrity to a 17 year old girl, if badly aroused.

I pray you read this post with realistic understanding and apply wisdom when dealing with men.

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By: Theophilus  Izobofolo


Most men agree to ‘no sex’ from the start because they believe that in the long run you will become flexible and start mellowing down little by each. They believe that later you’ll start accepting small small pecks, from small pecks to small small kisses, from small kisses to small small touching when it’s raining, from small touching to small small romance, from small romance pants will come off without them entering, from there GBAM!  they’re in,  and before you realise what you’re doing it has turned into an everyday routine.

uhmm, some of us don’t even know how to enjoy this sex that God has freely given to us. All this one that you people will just lock yourselves up inside the heat, close the windows, bolt the door, buy packets of condoms, drink sachets of tramadol, and still be doing it with a low voice so that your neighbors will not hear you people, untop of that you’ll still be praying that pregnancy should not arise a second time 😂, no rest of mind at all, please is that one sex? I will not even talk about how the devil will just be fanning away your  spiritual life with his facecap, Mtcheeew, you’re just cheating yourself and you don’t know it.

All those ones you’re doing in your relationship and think is enjoyment is just like stealing meat from your mother’s pot, you cannot enjoy it in peace, any little footstep you’re afraid of getting caught, because you know you’re not doing it the right way.

My dear, why not just chill and wait to enjoy this thing with peace of mind when you’re married? I mean, the kind of sex where you can be doing it and be drinking coke. The kind of sex where you can freely leave the windows open and even break down your door.

Guys, the full excitement in sex is on the marriage bed, where there are no fears, no condemnation, or limitations.

The kind of sex you can have on a sunday morning before rushing off to Sunday School😂

The kind of sex that you can boldly do wearing your Scapular and your Holy Rosary.

The kind of sex where you can use the big family Bible on the bed to support her head.

The kind of sex where you don’t need condoms or performance enhancement drugs, or fear unwanted pregnancy.

The kind of sex where you don’t care if the neighbors are hearing your love hymns.

The kind of sex you can have with Hillsong and Pastor Joel Osteen’s tapes playing in the background😋😂.

The kind of sex where the Heavens smile every time you cleave, because what they see is a Spirit exchange.

Wait for it guys, wait for the kind of marriage where the whole house is your marriage bed, from the kitchen table to the couch, to the staircase, to the pool, to the garden, to the bedroom, and even to kissing in  church.

Wait for it, it might look tough now, but the wait is always worth it. I Would have love to tell more but write-up is already long. Bye bye😀🤣. TAG someone and say “WAIT FOR IT!”

Ref: Dr. Udi



Some time ago I did a part 1 of this same topic please check it out on my timeline and read through it with understanding because the truth is this:

A man can have sex with a lady and still don’t have any feelings for her, most men only need space to have sex but majority of women need reason to have sex.

90% of woman cannot have sex without feelings, A man can travel for eight hours just to have sex with a female and yet, not love her or even have any feelings for her.

Sex makes men act as if they are in love while they are not!! What they feel is lust, what they feel is what they see which is curves and a huge behind, go through a lady’s silky skin thigh for a 5 minutes or less, ejaculate and forget.

The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.

The foolish thing is this, the majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is the art of true love. So many woman are bought and blinded by materialistic things, yet miss the small little gestures that money cannot buy.

Sex is not an act of commitment. So many Men and women still leave their partners on their beds and start thinking of the next woman or man to sleep with.

The satisfaction that comes from sex dies in minutes.

It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men.

A man who can afford the expenses of flying from the UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.

Sex drives men to do what seems like the impossible and such turns women around and they start acting weird.

Sex and love are not on the same page even in the dictionary.

People can abandon their gold mines and dig the grave for sex.

Most young men do terrible things just to have the resources to keep many girls in their life.

You may think they are working hard to live well in the future but they are just living for fun and that is all.

Students are now living together like husbands and wives, and our society calls it love. What kind of people do these students become when they leave school?

This is why we have a lot of frustrated graduates than nation-building graduates.

Today, a 16-year-old girl is already into sex. She wants to wear everything on trend. She is already a prostitute in the sense that any man that comes her way for relationship must show some signs of money and she would respond to him.

The funny thing is this, almost all those girls that have become sex symbols end up in a deep mess. How many of them today is changing the world they are into?

What kind of spirit would they do well within life? They have sold their souls out to sex.

They pride on what they wear and hotels they go to. That is their biggest achievement. The girls they called cowards are setting up economic empires.

Their future is already exhausted when they come to their true senses?

Advice to my beloved brothers and sisters:

For men; never allow your erection today to destroy your future directions, stay positive.

My sisters, all that glitters is not gold, make your future bright and it start today.

This is why many girls are not married yet their spiritual composition is already shattered and imbalanced, because they have mingled their souls with that of different men.


know today that there is a definite proportion of your virtue that leaves you each time a man enters into you and when that man leaves you, he leaves with it.

Just imagine how much of yourself would be lost each time a man enters into you without any properly

signed marriage bond or contract.

whenever sex is mentioned, then people get offended and begin to murmur and make negative comments about it.

Yet those people are the very personalities living in one sexual sin or the other.

There is no way any holiness preacher can preach true holiness to God’s satisfaction without teaching the pew about their sexuality, the careless use of sex, and the dangers involved and assume all will be well.

People need to be enlightened about the sin that has dominated the age. The sin that has captured the youths and both the married  in the church, the sin that has brought teenage pregnancies and abortions.

There is something both the aged and the infant do not know anything about. The church also has closed her eyes on this particular issue. Nobody wants to talk about it but it is very real.

In case you are not aware my brethren, I want to tell you that: SEXUAL IMMORALITY is the last bullet the kingdom of darkness has thrown against the church of God, and the church is wounded very sore that there seems to be no cure or remedy.

I want to make it so clear and not in jargons or vocabularies that, you cannot count the number of people who go to church and proclaim the name of God, that are still living in immorality.

They may either be suffering from lust, masturbation, pornography, adultery, incest, homosexual, lesbianism, sodomy, bestiality and many more which time will fail me to mention.

Hardly will you come across a young lady who has not been misused by ‘so called boyfriends’. And every guy is now dating because of sex.

God is watching all those that are having sex with people they haven’t married.

It’s a headache for God seeing his own created people perishing in a sin called sexual immorality.

How many young men today in the church can you count and point fingers at that fornication has not pulled down?

If sex that is only legalized between a man and his wife, is now between a guy and his girlfriend or between a man and his fiancee, do you need angels to come and sound the warning against sexual immorality?

If sex that is a sacred thing in marriage has become a desecrated thing in dating, what else do you want before you prepare the way of the Lord?


Cry aloud, spare not. And tell the house of Jacob their sins, and Israel their transgressions. Pastor why are you not crying aloud? Why are you so mute like ELI?

Heaven is shedding tears over the perishing souls every day and you are there raising funds every Sunday to build bigger Auditorium.

You call your members for anointing services and prayer meetings without urging sin out of them.

Some are living together with men that did not pay any dowry on them. Some commit abortion and cover it up. Some are lesbians and homosexuals. What are you doing about that?

Where has the word of God that says “flee fornication” gone to in your Bible? From henceforth, if you don’t take this warning and start declaring war against this strange spirit that has taken over the church, you’ll have questions to answer.


And those who claim they love holiness messages with negligence to this particular truth about sex have actually missed the mark.


To be active in church and still be committing immorality, still having a boyfriend or girlfriend, is totally against God’s plan and purpose for your life. REMEMBER THAT TO WHOM BRAIN IS GIVEN SENSE IS REQUIRED

All you need is genuine repentance.

Without holiness struggle continues

Remain blessed